Catching a Cheating Wife Vs Husband

Why would there be a difference between catching a husband cheating, and catching a wife cheating? Mainly because it is more common for the wife to stay at home, and for the husband to work. All methods listed in this site can be used to catch a cheating spouse, or detect an affair, but some methods may be more effective for husbands, and some for wives. You can ignore this article if your wife is not a housewife, and just use the catch a cheating spouse guide.

If you haven't already, you may want to read the page on "signs of a cheating spouse" before continuing. Knowing the signs, and then gathering evidence is what we recommend. Blind accusations will just cause relationship stress (plus make your spouse a better cheater).

Here's a breakdown on the current methods we talk about.

Cellphone Spies - This is equally useful for catching both a wife or a husband. Even if in most relationships the husband is the one who goes out to work, everyone in this day and age has a cellphone. Even my mom, who is in her 60s, has a cellphone. So this method is on the top of the list because it works well for both husbands and wives, is cheap, and available world wide. The only downside to this is if your spouse is not using a personal cellphone, and is provided one by the company they work for. This takes the top spot for catching a cheating spouse, it's like a keylogger for your cellphone bundled up with GPS cellphone tracking.

Keyloggers - This method won't work as much for people who use computers/laptops that are not their own. Work computers for example, are protected by the companies who own them. You most likely are not allowed to install anything, and if you are, it is recorded. Installing any monitoring device on anything you do not own is illegal. So if your husband rarely uses the computer/laptop at home, this won't be as effective as the cellphone spy. If you suspect your wife of cheating on you, and she just stays at home, then this would be a good option to catch her cheating because it is more likely that she uses the computer to talk to other people. This is also as cheap as the cellphone spy, depending on whether or not you opt for the hardware or software version keylogger. Software, be it cellphone spies, or keyloggers, are always cheaper than their hardware counterparts.

Hidden Cameras - Perfect to catch a cheating wife that stays at home and doesn't work out of the house. If you want to know if your spouse gets visits from people while you aren't home, consider using a motion activated hidden camera, so you can set it and forget it for a few days. It only activates when it detects movement, so that saves you a lot of hard drive space. Not as effective for cheating husbands unless he uses your car, and you can find a portable camera to install there. Portable surveillance equipment costs more than regular "plug in" camera equipment. I wouldn't spend more money to get a camera with better resolution. I would recommend the cheapest hidden camera or portable hidden camera you can get, the lower the resolution the better (cause it's cheaper). We aren't looking to make a home movie, we're trying to find out what is happening behind the scenes. Buying multiple lower resolution cameras is better than buying some HD super camera that can zoom in etc.

GPS Car trackers - A lot more useful for cheating spouses that work, or leave the house regularly. These are cheap, you can find some ranging from $30+-$40+, some of the more expensive ones require a monthly subscription though. Not as effective for cheating spouses who do not leave the house. May work for a wife that takes those 5 hour "shopping trips". GPS trackers can be replaced by simply remembering how many miles your spouse drives when they go to work/shop, and checking your mileage. Knowing your spouse's daily routine will save you some cash, but the downside to that is you can't PROVE they are lying. With a GPS tracker, you have solid data to backup your claims. This is also the method which my mother used when my father cheated on her, but it was a cellphone GPS tracker that a service provider had built in. It's original purpose was to help you locate your phone if you lost it, or it got stolen. But I guess it also helped her know that she was being cheated on.

Digital Voice Recorders - Another way that works best against cheating housewives vs spouses that work out of the house. Read the article for some suggested placements of your voice recorders, as well as two product recommendations. I bought two models of the cheaper one so I can monitor more areas vs the other model with more storage. Be sure to get a voice recorder that has voice activated recording features to save on storage and time sifting through hours of silence. One of the better methods, but you'd have to spend a minimum of $30.

Baiting Your Cheating Spouse - The best FREE method of catching your spouse cheating. Is this the same as impersonation? No, not really. Impersonation is when you call up credit card companies, or phone providers and fish for private details such as who owns what phone or what credit card charges were made while pretending to be the person, or their spouse. With this method, you are just going to fish for your spouse's cheating stories by pretending to be someone that is willing to cheat with them. I consider this the best free method of catching a cheating husband or wife because it has a chance of you finding out their secret email addresses or phone numbers. If you are low on cash and can't afford any of the tools mentioned here, there is cost in trying to bait a cheater into confessing to an affair.

Tracking Your Spouse's Internet Activities - This works well with the above method, and it's free as well. Not too effective if your spouse knows how to clear their internet browsing history. But if they don't, you will know what sites they visit, what they search on Google, and if they view porn sites secretly while you're away.

Private Investigators - Hired professionals. No question about it, this is THE best way to know whether or not your spouse is cheating. These guys are professionals, they make their living out of finding out the truth and providing information. Private Eyes will always get the job done, they employ all the methods found on this site, and some of their own. The only reason I recommend them last is because they are EXTREMELY costly compared to keyloggers, cellphone spies, and hidden cameras. If you plan on hiring a private eye, don't be surprised if the bill reaches the 4 digit range.

When I say I think it's the best way to know if she's cheating, I mean that for private investigators who have a good record. Be sure to check out the guide linked above to help you in selecting a private investigator. Don't just hire someone because they are your only option in your area. If they have a horrible record, you'd best do it yourself. And if you've had some experience with private investigators, please consider sharing it on the Private Investigator Reviews page, for the benefit of those people who in the future need help selecting a good P.I. company.

View things from the other side, learn how your husband will cheat on you by reading the "How To Cheat On Your Wife" article. Just to be clear, I DO NOT CONDONE CHEATING ON YOUR WIFE. This is just to show you some ways that your husband can cheat on you, and how they may avoid detection. It's a spin from the regular article where we talk about how to catch a cheater, it may be more eye opening when "reverse engineered".

Can a Private Eye monitor your home without you knowing?

Reader asks if a private eye can legally install spy cameras in your house without your knowledge to monitor you/your spouse. The answer is yes, if your spouse, or the owner of the house hired them. But you still have to do your own research for state laws because some states will require you to notify your spouse and inform them that the house is being monitored by a private investigator. We won't give you legal advice, and this is the last email question I'm going to reply to regarding this matter. Sorry folks.

If you hire a private investigator to catch your spouse cheating, and you don't own the house/condo/apartment that you are living in, and that P.I. installs spy cameras, microphone/"bugs" (the ones that record audio), your spouse can sue you and the private eye you hired.

Same goes for cellphone spies installed on cellphones you do not own, GPS trackers installed on phones/cars that you do not own, keyloggers on computers you do not own, etc.

Just remember when you want to install something that monitors activity, you MUST OWN whatever object you want monitored.

Now hiring a private eye to monitor your spouse in a PUBLIC place, that will cause you no legal problems since the place is public. You'll see alot of examples of that in the show cheaters in case you are in doubt.

Private Investigators during Valentine's Day

Different security businesses and private investigators say that cheating rate goes up during Valentine's Day. Some even go as far as to thank the cheaters for their increase in sales during valentine's day, because for them, when your spouse cheats on you they make a lot of money from selling their services to help you catch your spouse red handed. Knowing the fact that there are more instances of cheating during valentine's day, you should plan ahead to prevent cheating.

Some things you could do, if you don't know whether or not you have a cheating spouse is look for cheating signs. If you know you have a cheating spouse, set a plan for valentine's day and make sure your spouse will have no excuse to leave or not be with you on that day. If they have already preemptively said that they will be out of town for work, or have other things to do and can't be home, you could take a look at GPS car trackers, or cellphone GPS software to track your car or your cellphone.


Watch what this private investigator has to say about cheaters and private investigators.



A day in the life of a private eye



If you are looking to hire a private eye, please read this guide to help you select a private investigator. Be sure to do your research, if you hire an amateur PI, he or she may get you into legal trouble if they do anything illegal.

If you have had any experience with a private investigator, please use the "private investigator reviews" page and post about it to help others who are looking for a good reliable PI company.

On a lighter note, watch jimmy kimmel make fun of cheaters in this video :

Catch a Cheating Spouse With GPS Car Tracking

What is GPS car tracking?

GPS Car tracking is when you attach a GPS device (hidden from plain view) and monitor the car's location via a tracker unit which you hold safe. A GPS (Global Positioning System) car tracker will help you in determining exactly where your spouse, or at least his or her car is at.

Obviously an important tool in determining whether you have infidelity problems in your marriage or relationship. This option is best suited for those who do not have that much cash to spend for hiring private investigators.

A GPS car tracking unit will help you know the truth, if your husband or wife is lying to you. A cheating spouse will most likely take a day off from work, and not tell you, then head off to meet the person they are cheating on you with. This is where a GPS car tracker, or other such GPS devices which you can attach secretly to his or her things (briefcase etc) comes in handy.

And no, you do not need to be technically savy to operate any of the GPS devices to catch you cheating husband or wife. It's a simple process which involves attaching the tiny GPS tracker to their car, or any other place that won't be easily found, and then monitoring it with the GPS device which shows you on a map where the exact location of the tracker is. Most recommendable products come with a handy step by step instruction, and tech support if you do have any problems.

There are various choices for GPS tracking, not just attachments to your car. There are GPS tracking for cell phones too, which costs a monthly subscription (ask about this from your supplies, as prices vary from more or less than $10 a month), and several other types of GPS handheld devices. Cellphone GPS trackers are an alternative, if your spouse does not use a car to get around.

GPS Tracking Units

How would GPS car tracking help me with my cheating spouse?

The most important thing to remember is to avoid infidelity, is you need to know the truth. With some men or women, all it takes is a simple conversation, setting of boundaries, and respecting each others needs or desires. Other people just cannot help it and will lie to you, some studies show that there is an innate need for men and some cannot control their physical urges. GPS car tracking or having cellphone spies will help get you out of the dark, what you do about it when you know he or she is lying to you is all up to you, but of course if you really love your spouse you will do everything you can to save your relationship/marriage. GPS tracking devices for cars will give you undeniable proof that you can use when you confront your spouse.

Confrontation is ALWAYS better than remaining idle and waiting for your cheating spouse to correct themselves, they may even be brainwashed by the other person to leave you. Remaining idle will not do anything good for you, when you decide to confront them you will more than likely end up having better self esteem. There are various articles on this site about dealing with infidelity, and marriage counseling.

Confronting a cheating spouse after you know that he or she has been lying about their whereabouts may just save your relationship/marriage, or give you an advantage in court if you plan on going with this option. I recommend any sort of GPS cartracking/Cellphone spies to help put your mind at rest and finally know the truth about what is really happening when he or she is away from the house.

If you are still unsure if you need or want a GPS Car tracker, check out this list of cheating spouse signs. For those of you who do not want to actively look for evidence against your cheating spouse, I have also written a basic guide on how to hire a private investigator, and how to monitor your computer using a keylogger. Be warned though, a GPS car tracker is loads cheaper (and only you get to know the details of the affair) than hiring a private investigator. See more ways to catch your cheating spouse, follow the link to our guide.Please fully read the guide before asking questions on the comments section. Also read the comments on every post you view, there are loads of helpful tidbits in there posted by other readers.

January 2011 Update : You might be interested in a cheaper alternative than installing a GPS car tracker, it's a GPS cellphone tracker, discussed in the cellphone spy article.

Disclaimer :
Please remember that monitoring a cellphone YOU DON'T OWN is illegal. So is attaching a GPS device on a car you don't own. Any kind of monitoring you do should be on a piece of equipment or property that YOU DO OWN. You are responsible for your own actions and the actions of the people you hire (private investigators).

Catch cheating husband on valentine's day

Valentine's day is the time most cheating husbands get caught

According to most Private Investigators, it is the month of valentine's day that they have the most business. They say that catching a cheating husband is easier during valentine's day because most of these cheating husbands, even cheating wives, go out with their other lovers.

A cheating husband is forced to meet up with their mistresses, especially if their mistresses do NOT know that they are married. It is common for cheating husbands to keep their marriage secret, this is why you should keep a very close eye on his ring. If he ever comes home without his ring on his ring finger, you should be worried that something is wrong. They have no reason to remove their wedding rings, so why bother, unless they are trying to start another relationship and want to keep their past in the dark.

If your husband is having a secret affair, (online affair or emotional affair) he is going to have to meet up eventually if things develop. And as stated by the private investigators, Valentine's day is when they make the big money. Why? Because assuming the affair, and your husband's marriage is kept secret from both you and the new person he is involved with, they WILL have to go out on valentine's day because their lovers will obviously want to. Maybe they might want to go out with them too, if they are already in love with each other.

This will cause a lot of things to go wrong for you cheating husband, especially if you and him have plans on that same day. Things you should look out for are credit card bills, his pocket money, his bank account, his clothes, where he is, and if you have read on about ways to catch your cheating husband from this site, now is the perfect time to put your keyloggers, cellphone spies, and GPS trackers to good work. If you've taken the extra step to hire your own private investigator, that is awesome. You will have things covered and all you need to do is wait.

Two things can happen, you will either find your husband cheating on you during valentine's day, or finally be able to lift that weight off your shoulders and be secure in knowing you do not have a cheating husband.

If worse comes to worst, you are armed with all the knowledge you can after researching on how to catch a cheating husband that you will come out of this stronger, and win most of your assets in court. Remember, full custody of children is the best thing you can hope for if you ever want to divorce your cheating husband.

You should probably set something up if you haven't already done so, and ask him to go out on a date with you on Valentine's day. You have the right to be paranoid if he does not want to and says he has to work "overtime".

Remember, if you still haven't checked it out, there are tons of information and links on this website to things that will help you catch a cheating husband, such as those cellphone spy programs that will let you read all his text messages, deleted or not, listen in on all his calls, and keyloggers to help you get your husband's computer password and show you his online conversations and emails.

Good luck, and I wish you a happy valentine's day.

Spying on your cheating husband may get you trouble

Am I breaking the law when I spy on my cheating husband?

A lot of you who discovered or suspect that you have a cheating husband may end up the one being sued or in trouble for your actions. As I have said before, when trying to catch a cheating spouse, make sure you spend a good amount of time researching the tools necessary and the methods on how to catch your cheating spouse safely. If you are planning to just buy keyloggers, cellphone spies, hidden cameras, or hiring a private investigator without thorough research, you might just be setting yourself up for failure.

Some of the tools you can use to catch your cheating spouse :

1. Keyloggers - simple tools that you attach at the back of your PC, on the keyboard socket to be more specific. For more info on keyloggers, check the links found on this website, or click on this for help on setting up your own keylogger if you already purchased one. Link :How to catch your cheating husband - Keyloggers.

2. Cellphone Spies - One of the best tools in catching a cheating husband, these programs allow you to read text messages that are stored, or even those that were just deleted. The more expensive methods that allow you to spy on a cellphone are those that let you listen in on calls, and turn your husband's cellphone into a "bug" like you see in the movies. By turning it into a "bug" you can call the cellphone of your husband and it will allow you to hear whatever is in the immediate area of the phone. Totally undetectable if you have purchased a good product. For more info on cellphone spies, check the links found on this website.


If you've thought about purchasing, or have purchased any of these already, be warned. These gadgets, if not used properly, may get you sued. Contacting divorce lawyers before actually telling your cheating husband that you know about his affairs is the smartest thing you could do. Especially if you live in the US.

Purchasing these types of gadgets are not illegal at all, but how you use them might cause you trouble in court. In your defense, I know that it takes a lot to go thourgh something like this in a relationship and that your depression, anxiety, anger, or desperation may have caused you to buy these equipments to get the evidence you need to teach your cheating husband a lesson. All these negative feelings you have may have caused you to be ignorant to the laws governing the use of spy gear, surveillance gadgets, and the likes, so please research about that or consult divorce lawyers. In the US, there are laws governing the use of such equipment to intercept or electronically listen in to conversations or activities of individuals without their consent.

Even hiring private investigators may cause you trouble, this is why I highly recommend researching as much details as you can about the private investigator that you will hire. In most states in the US you, your private investigator, or even a friend of yours if you persuaded them to follow your cheating husband, could be held liable. The evidence you find on your husband by your own means should only be for you. An advantage in catching him red handed, because evidence gathered ilegally is useless in a court of law. Remember that when you pick a private investigator to hire, those who use illegal means to aquire evidence can be sued by your cheating husband, and you along with them.

Impersonation
This is another method most victims of cheating do that WILL backfire on you if you get caught. Pretending to be someone else inorder to get information from banks, phone companies, etc will get you in a lot of trouble in court. Your cheating mate could potentially sue you, or win over your case because of illegally aquired evidence.

What can I do legally to catch my cheating husband or wife?

It looks as if the cheaters always have the better of the deal, and it feels like you actually are in a losing battle, but really you don't need anything other than your knowledge of him, and the list found here on signs of a cheating spouse. This isn't enough for some, and I understand the need to validate your suspicions, but be very careful when using cellphone spy programs in catching a cheating spouse.

What can I legally do to monitor my spouse's activity?

1. Attach a GPS tracker on a car that you own. It is not illegal to do this, as long as you own the car.

2. If you own a cellphone and your husband or wife uses it, you can attach GPS tracking to your cellphone. It IS LEGAL to monitor that cellphone if YOU OWN IT.

How to catch a cheating husband with Private Eyes

Guide on how to hire a private investigator

You've been married for a fair amount of time, you notice that your spouse is now less involved, more distant, or is starting to keep secrets. You have seen some of the signs of a cheating husband. You're unsure on what to do but you really want to catch your cheating spouse. If you haven't tried keyloggers or spy programs, that is also a viable alternative to hiring a private investigator to do your spying for you. I recommend private eyes as a last resort, unless you are rich, then I recommend them over everything else. Only real downside to P.I's is they cost a LOT of money.

Hiring a private investigator to catch a cheating spouse for you is the right thing to do if you're busy with your own work, or taking care of your kids. You could most certainly do it all by yourself, using keyloggers and spy programs. It all really depends on you, and if you are comfortable with strangers handling such delicate matters. The benefit of hiring yourself a private investigator is you will get as much evidence as possible, video, audio, and anything from your computer(this you can do by yourself using keyloggers).

Don't forget that when you catch a cheating spouse, the topic of divorce comes up more often than not. I don't mean to sound negative but divorce often involves child custody, and division of assets. I'm sure you would not want your children ending up with someone that lied, betrayed, and cheated on their mother or father. Remember this when thinking about hiring a private investigator to catch your cheating husband or wife. If you are content with what your key loggers and spy programs have found and think a private investigator is unnecessary, then you can skip on and read other parts of this site, specifically "how to catch a cheating spouse using keyloggers". If you do however want to hire a private investigator to catch your cheating spouse for you, read on, and I hope I can help you with my advice.

When hiring a private investigator to carch your cheatin spouse, you'll obviously want someone proven. A private investigator with years of experience. You wouldn't want to hire someone that will just get caught and eventually alert your spouse to what is happening (you collecting evidence for divorce, if that is your plan). If until now you do not know if your spouse cheated, a private investigator will be able to confirm that for you, or dismiss the idea of infidelity by confirming every one of your spouse's excuses (working late, going out with friends, joined a gym, etc)

If you have enough evidence to prove in a court of law that you have a cheating spouse, then you would have the upper hand in gaining full custody of the children, your house, your possessions, alimony, etc. The custody over the children alone is enough reason for you to consider having a private investigator cover everything you haven't. Like videos of him from when he leaves the house up until he goes home. A mountain of evidence can be found from those, see an example of a group of private investigators hired to follow a suspected cheating husband. Check out this post and find out what happened to Sharon Bolton, a wife who suspected that her husband was cheating on her. Private investigators tracked down her husband, and found that he was cheating on her with the neighbor. Watch the video of a cheating husband caught found in this website.


How to hire a private investigator to catch your cheating spouse

Finding a private investigator where you live can easily be done by looking them up on the yellow pages or by googling "Private investigator (insert your location here)". Once you have found a website, you should now google "websitename reviews" or something similar for feedback.

You wouldn't want to waste your time and money on a private investigator that has no experience, or worse, has a lot of unresolved cases or complaints from previous employers. You want this whole thing to go smoothly, and you don't want your spouse finding out that they are being tailed.

Let's say I'm from Florida and I have decided that I need a private investigator to catch a cheating husband, I will now google "Private investigator florida".

Google now gives me a list of pages, with the top being most relevant and accurate. In this example, when you google "private investigator florida", the top of the search results page is fali.com

Now that you know there are private investigators at your area, you should now review their site by searching for terms like "fali.com review" or "fali.com cases" "fali.com scam". You want to find as much information on them as possible, good or bad. Here is an example of what I found from searching "fali.com review" :

Web safety ratings

Another thing to help you decide if it is a legit site or not is by getting their whois page. You can do this searching "fali.com whois", which brings us to the domain tools whois page. Click here to see the details.

You will see the contact details, the registrant, the administrative contact, etc. A fake site will have all this hidden, and the date the site was created will most likely be not more than a few months, or weeks even. In this case, fali.com looks as legit as can be, with a beginning date of 1998.

Another way, although not always available for all businesses, is to seach bbb.org. In this example, fali.com, is not registered with bbb.org. Not that big of a deal, since fali.com has been around for more than a decade. No spam/scam sites last more than a few months, so I can be sure that fali.com can be trusted and it is safe to hire a private investigator from them to help me catch my cheating spouse (or soon to be proven cheating spouse).

So once you are done reading their whole site, looking for reviews, checking their reputation, decide now whether or not to go ahead and hire a private investigator. If you have enough spare cash, I would definitely recommend this to anyone who is about to or is thinking about getting a divorce.

You might also find it easier to ask people who have gone through all of this before to help you with details on where/who they hired to catch their cheating spouse. If you don't know anyone who can help you, try the above method in hiring someone to help you gather evidence and catch you cheating spouse.

What you are looking for is someone who is PROFESSIONAL. Not just some guy who bought a video cam and is willing to tail and stalk your spouse. You want a professional licensed private investigator, not a vigilante type person who wants to stalk your cheating spouse for you. This individual should provide you with a guarantee of secrecy, and daily reports of everything that he has found/heard/recorded. You should discuss how far you would like things to go, and you should ultimately have full control on what will happen.

If you yourself have gathered enough evidence, already caught your cheating spouse, and can't find any more evidence/a good private investigator, it would do you good to seek advice from an attorney, or ask them for recommendations on private investigators.

The reason why I recommend you to NOT confront your cheating spouse before you have enough evidence is because you might not even have the chance of gathering evidence once you let your husband or wife know that you know what is going on. Having a good long civilized talk with your cheating spouse might reduce your chances of getting evidence for several reasons. They might deny it all in court, and if you have no evidence, you risk losing custody over the children. They might turn it around, and blame you. Anything can change, so why not get the upper hand? Consider everything you wouldn't normally, cause once a cheating spouse gets caught, they become a different person. If they have a history of being violent, try not to confront them alone. Think of a dog that is cornered, it will do anything to protect itself.

If you have had any experiences with private investigators, please share your experience on the comments form or at the private investigator reviews page

Good luck,
Kris

Update 2010: You might also be interested in my post on how to catch a cheating spouse using keyloggers.

Update 2011: I've added a new mobile phone spy software to the methods we can use to catch a cheating spouse.

Disclaimer :
Please remember that monitoring a cellphone YOU DON'T OWN is illegal. So is attaching a GPS device on a car you don't own. Any kind of monitoring you do should be on a piece of equipment or property that YOU DO OWN. You are responsible for your own actions and the actions of the people you hire (private investigators).