Catch Your Spouse Cheating Online With Keyloggers
My previous post how to catch a cheating spouse was a basic guide on how to hire a private investigator. This is a more active method, which will involve using keyloggers.
Most of you, myself included, would rather do all the spying and evidence collecting themselves for various reasons. Mine would be that I was a bit ashamed of sharing such private details about my cheating husband, even with a professional private investigator, I would prefer to catch my cheating husband on my own. I would rather gather everything myself and then hire an attorney. This is another method on how to catch a cheating spouse.
In this method we will use keyloggers, and other various programs. This will be a work in progress, so if you have any programs that you would like to share and think it will help out someone that is doubtful of their spouse's loyalty, please contact me at my email (catchacheateradmin @ gmail dot com). If you haven't already read the "How to catch a cheating husband - private investigator" page, I recommend you do, if you don't want to take part on gathering evidence yourself and would prefer a different method to catch your cheating spouse.
Here is one method that I have mentioned in several posts, such as "Signs of a cheating spouse". This method is the one I used first, even before spying on cellphones.
Please read the reminder above (on every page on this site). Before spying on your spouse, research your local state laws regarding the legality of monitoring an individual's conversations. Also read the disclaimers of the websites you buy from.
Tools to help catch a cheating spouse
First gadget we have to help catch a cheating spouse, which requires absolutely no computer know-how, is a keylogger. For those of you who are as technically illiterate as I am, this is THE perfect tool to help you spy on and catch your spouse cheating on the computer.
Basically it is a small piece of hardware that you attach to your computer, and it records all the keystrokes on its memory. It is undetectable. You just have to make sure that you attach the keylogger when no one is around the house.
The bigger the memory you buy, the more it will store, allowing you to leave it in for weeks on end. This will only work for desktop computers, as you need to attach this to where the keyboard attaches, and then attach the keyboard to your keylogger which will then spy on your cheating spouse's internet activity. You will be able to see not only where they go online, but you will also get your cheating spouse's passwords to all their websites, messengers, (secret) emails, etc. An essential when wanting to catch them in an affair.
Benefit of having this hardware keylogger is that it is undetectable even if you have virus scanners. To find it, your cheating spouse would have to look at the back of the computer, and then check the keyboard socket. Now, when have they, or anyone else in the house, ever done that?
This has worked for me, and even after divorcing my husband, it has proven to be useful in other things such as monitoring my kids' internet activities. They KNOW I know what they are doing, but they don't understand how their technically inept mom does it (cause they are lazy and would never clean their computers, which has the keylogger attached behind :) ). Every week or so, when I come to check on their rooms, I check the keylogger out and see their activities online.
Here is the Hardware Keylogger (USB version, if you don't know what USB means, read on) that I used which has a whopping 1 gigabyte storage, I also got it from the same site I buy books, Amazon, which is a well known site so you're sure that you won't get scammed either. An essential when it comes to gathering evidence while trying to prove or disprove an affair.
This type of keylogger is best used because of it's size and it's stealth. It's an inch and a half long, placed behind your computer AND can store 1 GIGABYTE (this is huge in case you did not know) worth of keystrokes. Which is plenty to get your cheating spouse's password, conversations, and anything else they hide from you. You can read their plans even before they go through with them AND you will have their passwords, that's the best part. Just avoid confronting the other person before sufficient evidence is acquired or you are ready to sue your cheating spouse and divorce them because s/he will most probably tell your spouse about it. But you won't really need to talk to the other person, you'll be able to see all their conversations through the key logs. Without them suspecting anything.
There is also a smaller sized cheaper keylogger, this will work just the same way as the 1 gigabyte one with the only difference being you will need to check up on it everyday or so and clear memory. Downside is you might go over the limit of the keylogger, and miss some of the details your cheating husband or wife is hiding. Anyway, the price goes down whenever the memory size goes down. The available sizes other than the 1 gigabyte one that I would recommend is the
Update December 2010: They discontinued the 4MB model. Check the other models recommended below, and sift through the related products for smaller versions (cause they're cheaper).
Be sure to pick the right one depending on what computer you have. I researched and it turns out my new PC (which my gamer son built for me) has a USB socket for the keyboard, so I got the 1 gigabyte one for this machine. For older PCs you will need a ps/2 socket. Don't buy the 2 gigabyte one, as that is a bit of an overkill. My ex cheating husband would fill up a 1 gigabyte one in about a week, which was more time than I could wait. I check on the keylogger every week, and 1 gig will definitely be perfect for that. 4MB one is good for a day or two at MAX. Also depends on how often your spouse uses the computer, it's up to you to decide.
Here are some quick links so you don't need to have trouble searching the site:
1 gig keylogger USB socket - Click here to view image of how it should look like.
Older keyboards, PS/2:
2MB keylogger PS/2 socket - Click here to view image of how it should look like.
1 gig keylogger
Again if you are unsure of what these do, they record EVERY keystroke made on your keyboard, and saves it on it's memory for you to view later on. Every single detail your cheating spouse tries to hide from you will be exposed. This is a sure fire way of catching a cheater, you will have all the evidence you need; this will either help you confirm your beliefs that your spouse is cheating on you, or will help you realize if you are just being paranoid for no reason at all.
In any case, you can also use it later on for other things such as to protect your kids by monitoring their internet activities, leaving someone in charge of your house while the computer is accessible, etc.
Please READ THIS before purchasing any of those keyloggers.
This hardware keylogger is not compatible with laptops. Your only choice for a laptop keylogger is a software based keylogger. Hardware based keyloggers do however work for any type of operating system (Windows, linux, etc), and has no need for software installations; some do have software installations, but it's usually for the device you are going to read the captured logs from.
Do you know what a USB or PS/2 socket is? I did not because as I said I am technically challenged, and had to research for a few hours before I understood. All you actually need to do, without all the computer talk, is turn your computer around and look at what the keyboard plugs into.
If it is round like this, you have a PS/2 socket.
If it is rectangular, you have a USB socket.
Just remember to check which one you need before buying, I don't want you to be wasting your money or spending hours of research. But you probably are not as technically inept as I am. :)
To recap, the benefits of these hardware keyloggers are :
- No installation needed for simple keystroke logging. (other than plugging in the back of the computer)
- Can be used to find out every and all keystrokes done on the computer.
- Can be used to get spouse's secret accounts.
- Can be used to get passwords for those accounts.
- Can be used to get your spouse's password on protected files or computer accounts.
- Basically anything typed, you will see.
- The more complex keyloggers allow taking of screenshots and "live viewing" from a remote computer.(see the updated software based keyloggers).
- Hardware keyloggers are undetectable unless physically found
This will be updated as much as I can to help you find more ways and gadgets you can use to catch a cheating spouse.
I hope this has helped you, and please feel free to email me if you need additional help. You can contact Kris, Mike or Hana at catchacheateradmin at gmail.
Update 2010 : How to catch a cheating spouse using cellphone spies
Added a new article discussing cell phone spies, which is like a combination of GPS and keylogger that works on a cell phone. This article will help you pick a cell phone spy, and described the 3 basic types available to you.
Update January 2011 : Because of all the similar questions regarding cellphone spies and GPS trackers, I have made a follow up post to my guide on how to select a GPS/cellphone spy and actually recommend one product. Click on my mobile phone / Cellphone Spy article for the update.
Update May 2011 : If you are currently looking for a free keylogger, read that post. I discuss why this is NOT the proper place to try and save money. Most so called free keyloggers or cell phone spies are designed to do nothing but spy on YOU, not the phone or computer you intend on monitoring. Don't get suckered into downloading any type of free software unless they are really popular (like mozilla.org's firefox browser, or google chrome).
I wrote that article because it's one of the most common questions I get "where can I download a free keylogger?", and the reply I always give, and will always give, is "I'm sorry I don't want to be responsible for you downloading a virus that steals your personal information". I'm not exaggerating, please read that article about software that claims to be "free".
Update Jun 2011
Added a new software keylogger for macs article. Also contains an alternative software keylogger for windows.
Off topic Update 2011: After 3 years of maintaining this blog and testing products, I can safely say I, and my husband Mike, have become experts at spy tools. My hobby has become my passion, I love helping people with relationship problems because I can relate to them so much. Sorry for going off topic, but if you need someone to listen to or just read about your situation, you can email us or post on the cheat spouse stories page.
Please remember that monitoring a cellphone YOU DON'T OWN is illegal. So is attaching a GPS device on a car you don't own. Any kind of monitoring you do should be on a piece of equipment or property that YOU DO OWN. You are responsible for your own actions and the actions of the