Is your husband cheating on you with a mutual friend?

Is your husband's "friend" just that, or are they having an affair?

It is perfectly fine for couples to have mutual friends, and it is very normal that your husband may close friends that are women. Just because he has a lot of close friends that are women doesn't mean you have a cheating husband. However if you suspect your husband is cheating on you with a one of those friends and you have noticed some signs of a cheating husband, then you are right in paying more attention and researching more on cheating spouses. Most of the times you can tell if your spose is cheating, but when your instincts go off, it may mean trouble down the road. Is it wrong to suspect your husband is cheting? Is it wrong to check up on your husband's cell phone? If you are doing it because you want to save your relationship and marriage, there is nothing wrong with that at all, and besides that, marriages or serious relationships should have little to no secrets. Especially when it comes to sensitive matters like what your relationship is with the opposite sex, a wife has every right to know these things, and should worry when a husband tries to keep her in the dark.


Affairs usually start out innocent enough, and it is very common to find affairs that started out as friend. In today's world it is not even uncommon for your spouse to be having an affair with the same sex. We'll talk about some signs you should pay close attention to when trying to find out if your husband's friend is not just a friend. Sometimes when people think they are very good at hiding something, they really aren't, and are quite obvious.


Here are a few signs of a cheating husband
These can apply to both sexes, and also if you suspect your husband is secretly gay.

1. Your husband or wife will prefer him or her over you. This is just too obvious, if your husband or wife would put off your plans in place for his or her plan with this "friend", this is a very obvious sign they are more than friends. Of course there are special occasions, like a business deal that needs to be settled right away, or one of his favorite bands suddenly came to town(and you know it for a fact). If this keeps happening more and more, you need to confront him or her about this and tell them you are not getting enough of his time, or you would like to tag along, especially if time spent is with the opposite sex.

2. Intimate conversations. This is one of the harder signs to catch, when your spouse is actually having intimate conversations with the opposite sex, it is an almost 100% sign that they are NOT just friends. By intimate conversations I mean conversations he would only speak to you about, such as telling you a personal problem, sharing a secret, talking about how stressed or depressed he or she is feeling. Things that would fall into the category of couple talk. These are often observed when you talk to the friend who he or she is having conversations with. They may let it slip out, or they may not even know that they shouldn't talk about it infront of you. Maybe they even know something your husband has never told you. To take a more active approach, try to "bait" them into talking about a subject you know only you and your husband has talked about.

3. Discreet phone conversations. When you walk in a room and your husband is having a phone conversation with this friend, does he move away, put down the phone, or tell the friend they will call them back? If your spouse does this, you have to wonder why. Why would your husband or wife not want you in the same room when talking with their friend? What is it that they are trying to hide? If this happens a lot of times in your relationship, confront your spouse. If it has only started happening, and there's an upcoming important event, such as your birthday, anniversary or anything that would warrant a party, then you may just have stumbled upon a surprise party and you have nothing to worry about.

4. Flirting. Another obvious signs, when your husband or wife flirts, they may not notice it, but it is very obvious to other people that they are more than friends. Do friends flirt with each other? Sometimes, maybe as a joke, but if it is done more often than not, then it is definitely a sure sign they are going past the normal friend boundaries. Examples of flirting are either telling each other inside jokes, being overly touchy with each other, tickling, talking and laughing a lot with each other, especially when they think they are alone, or whispering to each other when they are in a crowd. Flirting is a sign that they have developed into something more than a friendship, and all emotional affairs are where cheating husbands or cheating wives start out.

5. Complementing the friend too much. Do you notice your husband or wife giving out compliments to this one friend, but less to other friends, or even less to you? Another obvious sign to watch out for. When you ask about this, all your spuse does is shrug it off or tell you they don't notice it and you're making up things. There are situations though that this person deserves the complements, but this doesn't always mean your husband should be throwing complements all year round. More than friends, possibly(coupled with other signs, yes), cheating on you, not a very revealing sign but worth it to pay attention to catch a husband before he gets to the cheating part.

6. The famous calling out of a different name in their sleep. There's really nothing more needed to say about this, it's in a spouse's natural instincts to immediately confront after hearing their spouse call out some other person's name. Now if the name calling out happens when both of you are awake, and in the middle of..intimate relationships..you definitely NEED to confront him, because that is as obvious as a sign of a cheating husband can get!

7. You catch your husband or wife having a secret date with this friend. You confront them, and they both are stunned and act like they are hiding something. Of course they will act like that, they're DATING behind your back! At this point, you will need to tell him to stop being friends with this person, or whatever compromise you can think of. If you're a guy, and you catch your wife dating another man, please try to be civil. I know some men cannot control themselves and will immediately resort to violence, but when you do that you risk getting thrown in jail instead of getting back at her by divorcing her, and leaving her sorry that she ever betrayed you by suing her pants off. The feeling you get when you win a divorce case is great, even when you feel down knowing you won and won most of your assets in a divorce just makes it all that better. I still remember the look on my cheating husband's face when I left him after I won, priceless :)

8. Pay attention whenever you confront your husband or wife. When they keep defending or taking the side of the "friend" after you tell them not to see or talk to them anymore, your spouse may be having an emotional affair with them. Close to half of all emotional affairs turn into full time affairs which involve not only emotional intimacy, but also physical intimacy.

9. The "friend" of your wife or husband starts talking about his or her new girl/boyfriend, who remains unnamed. They may talk about the date they have had in a classy place, or the new flowers that were sent to them, or new jewelry, clothes, and maybe even about the wonderful sex they are having together. Watch closely and check your credit card bills, bank account, your spouse's clothes for any crumpled up or balled up receipts.

10. Your husband has become such a "helpful neighbor". He volunteers to help do this and do that, he helps teach her how to use tools, fix her garage, lift heavy equipment, etc. They may all be excuses to hang out with each other. This is not always a sign that they are having sex and your husband is cheating, but it may just mean your husband would want some time to talk or actually hang out. This, like all affairs, can start out innocent at first, but once two people get too close to each other attraction starts to build up. They may find the other helpful, funny, or whatever they find attractive, and they will want more of it. When the emotional affair begins, they will also find that they are getting attracted to each other physically, and will eventually want to have physical relationships. So if you can, whenever your spouse offers to help this "friend", try to accompany them to make sure no boundaries are crossed.

In order for you to have a happy marriage or relationship, you have to have the proper marriage principles. Just by having proper marriage principles, you can avoid or prevent infidelity altogether. The boundaries of your marriage will be kept intact and neither of you will break it, both of you will be satisfied and avoid neglecting each other, you'll end up spending more time together and making more mutual decision on things or activities you do not normally do. The benefits of knowing and abiding by proper marriage principles are just too important to overlook.

It is always better to prevent adultery/infidelity by building a solid foundation in your marriage than dealing with the after effects and coping with your cheating spouse.

Spying on your cheating husband may get you trouble

Am I breaking the law when I spy on my cheating husband?

A lot of you who discovered or suspect that you have a cheating husband may end up the one being sued or in trouble for your actions. As I have said before, when trying to catch a cheating spouse, make sure you spend a good amount of time researching the tools necessary and the methods on how to catch your cheating spouse safely. If you are planning to just buy keyloggers, cellphone spies, hidden cameras, or hiring a private investigator without thorough research, you might just be setting yourself up for failure.

Some of the tools you can use to catch your cheating spouse :

1. Keyloggers - simple tools that you attach at the back of your PC, on the keyboard socket to be more specific. For more info on keyloggers, check the links found on this website, or click on this for help on setting up your own keylogger if you already purchased one. Link :How to catch your cheating husband - Keyloggers.

2. Cellphone Spies - One of the best tools in catching a cheating husband, these programs allow you to read text messages that are stored, or even those that were just deleted. The more expensive methods that allow you to spy on a cellphone are those that let you listen in on calls, and turn your husband's cellphone into a "bug" like you see in the movies. By turning it into a "bug" you can call the cellphone of your husband and it will allow you to hear whatever is in the immediate area of the phone. Totally undetectable if you have purchased a good product. For more info on cellphone spies, check the links found on this website.


If you've thought about purchasing, or have purchased any of these already, be warned. These gadgets, if not used properly, may get you sued. Contacting divorce lawyers before actually telling your cheating husband that you know about his affairs is the smartest thing you could do. Especially if you live in the US.

Purchasing these types of gadgets are not illegal at all, but how you use them might cause you trouble in court. In your defense, I know that it takes a lot to go thourgh something like this in a relationship and that your depression, anxiety, anger, or desperation may have caused you to buy these equipments to get the evidence you need to teach your cheating husband a lesson. All these negative feelings you have may have caused you to be ignorant to the laws governing the use of spy gear, surveillance gadgets, and the likes, so please research about that or consult divorce lawyers. In the US, there are laws governing the use of such equipment to intercept or electronically listen in to conversations or activities of individuals without their consent.

Even hiring private investigators may cause you trouble, this is why I highly recommend researching as much details as you can about the private investigator that you will hire. In most states in the US you, your private investigator, or even a friend of yours if you persuaded them to follow your cheating husband, could be held liable. The evidence you find on your husband by your own means should only be for you. An advantage in catching him red handed, because evidence gathered ilegally is useless in a court of law. Remember that when you pick a private investigator to hire, those who use illegal means to aquire evidence can be sued by your cheating husband, and you along with them.

Impersonation
This is another method most victims of cheating do that WILL backfire on you if you get caught. Pretending to be someone else inorder to get information from banks, phone companies, etc will get you in a lot of trouble in court. Your cheating mate could potentially sue you, or win over your case because of illegally aquired evidence.

What can I do legally to catch my cheating husband or wife?

It looks as if the cheaters always have the better of the deal, and it feels like you actually are in a losing battle, but really you don't need anything other than your knowledge of him, and the list found here on signs of a cheating spouse. This isn't enough for some, and I understand the need to validate your suspicions, but be very careful when using cellphone spy programs in catching a cheating spouse.

What can I legally do to monitor my spouse's activity?

1. Attach a GPS tracker on a car that you own. It is not illegal to do this, as long as you own the car.

2. If you own a cellphone and your husband or wife uses it, you can attach GPS tracking to your cellphone. It IS LEGAL to monitor that cellphone if YOU OWN IT.

Signs Of A Cheating Spouse

Cheating Signs

Since I've been getting emails not only from wives, but also husbands, I've decided to take the time and list not only signs of a cheating husband, but signs of a cheating wife as well.

First of, for those people that have been emailing me about gay marriage and gay relationships, I am sorry but I can see no differences on what signs you need to watch out for, if you have a cheating husband or cheating wife as a gay couple, then look at the appropriate signs listed here for a cheating husband or cheating wife. If you would like to write something that you think will help same sex marriages, feel free to email(catchacheateradmin at gmail) me and I will put it up as a guest post. Be sure to include your contact details (just a first name or pen name) if you would like them to be put up and linked to your website.

If you were looking for ways to catch a cheating spouse, see the how to catch a cheating spouse guide, it's free and updated fairly often. You may also contribute to it by sending us an email.

Please remember to do your own research on state laws regarding cellphone spies, keyloggers, or any other type of monitoring device that you wish to use to catch a cheating partner.

Signs of a cheating spouse

Some of these signs are common for most cheating spouses, but some of these (which I will explain) are only things that expert liars do. Some cheating spouses are so good at lying and manipulating their partners that you actually will end up feeling horrible for even thinking that they are cheating, when in fact they really are but have successfully manipulated you into thinking they aren't, and you're insulting them. Hard to understand? Please take a moment to read on if you're in a position like this while looking for signs of a cheating spouse, I know it is difficult, but you're doing the right thing. Being delusional leads to nowhere.

Please understand I will only "tell it like it is" and give every type of cheating husband or wife sign you should watch out for. I'm not talking about YOUR husband or wife directly, please do not be offended because all of the signs here are from personal experience, books, and other people's experiences. Just because you don't see them it doesn't mean you are safe, it's always best to have a backup plan such as a keylogger, or a cellphone spy, especially if you have kids (I use mine now to monitor my kids).

It's best you try and gather actual proof that they are cheating instead of just saying you read a list of cheating signs and they are doing exactly what you read. It will just end up as a he said she said argument that will lead to a stressful relationship, and possibly a wiser cheater who will know what to avoid next time they cheat on you.

Moving on, these are the cheating signs:

1. You notice the condoms you keep are slowly decreasing even if you do not have intercourse more than a few times a month. An obvious sign you may have a cheating husband.

2. Your wife buys contraceptives, even though you have had a vasectomy or are/will be away from home for a long time. Immediate confrontation should happen, don't wait for the condoms to start disappearing, ask about why is she buying them. This is a sure sign that you have a cheating wife. By confrontation, I don't mean accuse them immediately they are cheating. Simply fish and ask why they need contraceptives for.

3. Your partner is more loving and caring than they usually are. This happens early on, when the affair is only starting out and developing. A cheating husband or wife will do this because of guilt, but you will notice swings in their mood and the overly caring or loving attitude will soon fade once the affair has been going on for longer than expected and it all seems natural to the cheater.

4. Your friends will start talking behind your back. Possibly because of them knowing about it, or hearing rumor about it from other friends. Maybe even seeing your husband or wife flirting with other people. A true friend will tell this to you face to face, and you should not be offended if they ever do, you should calmly ask them why they think so, then start your own detective work. Since you're here, you possibly suspect or have observed signs of cheating."You can't see the forest for the trees"

5. Your spouse, while being overly nice, starts buying you presents or little gifts almost every other day, after work or "overtime". This goes hand in hand with being overly nice, loving, or caring because of the guilt they experience when starting an affair. Showering you with love, attention or material things helps them feel less guilty for lying, deceiving and betraying you, and serve as a distraction and excuse for the missing time they can't explain otherwise.

6. A cheater stops being intimate and  does not spend quality time with their partner as their affair goes on. You won't get the usual asking for your opinions, or confiding in you when they have problems. Two things you might get are overly nice attitude, or the exact opposite, cold and distant.

7. Your cheating husband or wife's new routine, mannerisms or behavior towards you or how he or she goes about his day gives you this gut feeling that there is something wrong. When this happens your instincts alert you to possible problems, often you start trying to find something wrong that YOU did. No one knows your partner more than you, so you are right to be suspicious when you get gut feelings like this.

8. Your cheating husband or wife creates new email accounts or starts joining dating websites, chatrooms but does not inform you about them or denies it's theirs if you found out about their secret emails. To find out about this, which would be his or her secret, read my post on how to catch a cheating spouse using keyloggers or cellphone spies.

9. The opposite of being overly nice, your cheating spouse will start to have fights with you, usually on the day they want to meet the person they are cheating on you with. Fighting with you is one reason for them to be able to leave the house without giving you a reason to suspect them of infidelity, and usually this happens because they want to meet up.

10. When your partner leaves the house, he or she smells like whatever soap you use at home, or whatever perfume/cologne they use. When your partner returns, they have no scent, or a different perfume/cologne. Sometimes a cheating spouse may even come home freshly showered.

11. Your cheating husband or wife suddenly brings up the idea of your marriage or serious relationship coming to an end when you fight. Whenever you argue about something so little, it usually becomes a full blown fight and then the topic of splitting up is raised by your partner. They would say such things like "What if I left you?", "If this continues on, I don't think I can take it anymore" or "Do you think we're meant to be together? All we do is fight". Basically all that comes out of your partner is negativity towards your marriage or serious relationship. This usually happens after a lot of time is spent in the affair and the cheating spouse is confident enough that if this marriage or relationship ends, he or she will be safe and have someone after you. A very serious sign, confrontation may be right at this point, depending on your motives.If you think your marriage is at serious risk of ending, seek marriage counseling.

12. A common thing with cheaters is they suddenly want to look better physically. One of the things they do to look more attractive is joining a gym. If you've been together for a long time and never once has the topic of going to a gym, or even taking a simple diet come up, you are right about suspecting something is going on. This is especially true for men who go out alot and work "overtime". Not only is your cheating husband or wife trying to look more attractive, but they also will get a free excuse to leave home. Joining a gym might just be an excuse altogether to leave your house. Good way to know for sure is purchasing a GPS tracker or cellphone spy to ease your worries. Another way is to just offer to go with them, either just for company or joining the same gym.

13. Your spouse may be very tense and have mood swings. A cheating wife or husband may show visible signs of excitement or happiness when about to leave the house, but seems bored and not themselves when at home or spending time with you. On the other hand if the affair has been going on for a long time already, he may try to hide it by faking his feelings when with you to make both of his relationships work, before finally picking one he wants to be in for the rest of his life. The mood swings you see maybe caused by his other relationship. When everything is perfectly normal with your marriage or relationship, then he comes home angry and seemed like he was in a fight (with the other person), he may take it out on you or even blame you for little things and say that is what is causing him to be mad and anxious. Cheating causes anxiety for both parties, especially if he really loves you but can't decide if he wants to be with you and you alone.Recent studies have shown this behavior is more common among cheating housewives than husbands, because a woman will want to pick someone who she can be secure with. "Collect and select". Read more about female affairs.

14. You find out your husband or wife has a new cellphone. You ask them about it but they just either sound like they are lying, or dismisses it like it was nothing important. A cell phone tracker may help you with determining if he is using that phone for cheating. Please do your local state laws research before you use cell phone trackers.

15. After awhile, you've experienced them being overly nice and gift buying, your wife or husband almost never starts a conversation, unless important. You're living in the same house but quality time is out of the question. You wife never cooks you your favorite meal, or your husband never is sweet or takes you out to movies. Your cheating partner is totally inconsiderate to your needs and ignores you or doesn't give you as much attention when you confide in him. You start to think he has fallen out of love with you, or worse, he has fallen in love with someone else.

16. Your partner's other cellphone is not billed in their name. He or she may have a friend's name listed, and tell you that it is a company phone. Luckily that doesn't matter if you have purchased a cellphone spy, you will be able to spy on your husband or spy on your wife's cellphone as long as it has access to an internet connection (which most phones today have).

17. Little things like taste in music gives us hints that we might have a cheating spouse. Someone who listens to classical music suddenly likes to listen to rock and roll, this is a huge change in genre and might make you wonder where or whom she/he learned this from. This is most surprising for wives that are at home most of the time, with no one to influence their taste in music. This is when you should consider installing hidden cameras at home. When your wife or husband spends most of their time at home, nothing will beat a hidden camera at monitoring their activities.

18. For women, when a cheating husband has condoms in his wallet or starts buying condoms but knows that you are on the pill, or godforbid, one of you can not have children, then this is almost a give away that he is cheating.

19. Your husband or wife might be insecure. When a person is insecure, especially true for young women, they are easily persuaded into doing things to gain positive feedback and a sense of "fitting in" or being secure. They may not be having an affair to hurt you or because they are tired of you, they may be having an affair to help themselves feel better because you have been ignoring their emotional needs.

20. A cheater keeps the computer clean, deletes the archives of your internet browser, and changes their password for emails or your computer. May also delete all text messages, calls, etc when he or she never used to do this. They might have another girlfriend or boyfriend that they are trying to keep a secret, spying on them becomes necessary if they do not open up and give you a reason as to why everything is so clean all of a sudden and they are acting different.To check whether or not your spouse is cleaning up, check your browser and look at the internet history files. If they are empty, you know they are hiding something. To prove it, you may need a keylogger, or catch them in the act while they are chatting or emailing their new partners.

21. Sometimes, out of pure guilt, an unfaithful spouse will ask questions like "Have you ever thought of someone other than me as more than a friend?" or "Have you had feelings for someone else since we got together?". Hypothetical questions like these can mean they are having an affair and would like to know how you feel about that, or they are thinking about having an affair. They can also be flirting with other people.

22. Your cheating husband or wife will give their opinions on a friend of yours, sometimes this may even be the friend they are having an affair with, and say NEGATIVE things about this person in an attempt to make you think they are not attracted to them, or even feel disgusted by this type of person. A common thing cheating wives say to their husband's when asked is that they are disgusted by their husband's friend because he is a "pig" or "has no manners". But secretly she could be attracted or maybe even having an affair already with him. For husband's, what they usually say when you ask them is things like "she looks like a slut!", "I think she looks dumb", or "she's too talkative and bitchy". Watch out for little things like these when you fish for answers, they might try to distract you with comments similar to those mentioned above.

23. Cheating spouses become easily annoyed or offended, even if they used to shrug it off or comment back, at little harmless comments you give them. This could be because they are feeling guilty, or mad that you asked them to do something or made them go with you to someplace, unknowingly ruining their plans to meet up behind your back. They could also be going through conflict with their other relationships and are getting very stressed trying to juggle things around.

24. Your cheating husband or wife stops caring about your children, you, and what used to be his or her daily family routine. He or she may stop playing with the kids, asking you for sex, or go out on dates with you. They may even get irritated when your children ask for some time to go out or play with them. There is little to none quality time with you and your kids. This is sometimes the worst sign, especially if it is your kid that notices he/she is different. Most partners don't want to even think about their significant other having an affair, so they become delusional/naive.

25. Your partner, especially if a woman, will suddenly buy new underwear or clothing. Your cheating wife suddenly buys sexy lingerie, when she never used to or has never talked about it with you, she might be having an affair. Especially if you found it by accident and she hasn't even told you about it. For the husband, he may or may not buy new underwear, but he could do other things like suddenly starts shaving, or gets a new haircut. An almost guaranteed sign to catch a cheating housewife is if you catch them packing sexy underwear when they are off to a trip without you, say their parents home or a company outing. They would never need lingerie

26. Locking doors, closing doors, and distancing themselves from you when at home. In long term relationships couples usually do not hide behind doors while shaving, taking a bath or even peeing, but all of a sudden you can't see your wife's or husband's body anymore, in or out of bed. This happens mostly in the bathroom, when they will secretly check if their other lover has left any marks that you might catch. So they distance themself from you by locking doors to check, and if they do spot something out of the ordinary they may suddenly want to go straight to bed. Leaving hickeys on a husband or wife could be a little game your spouse is playing with their new lover, and it could be another way that excites both of them.

27. Your husband or wife stops giving you complements and you feel like you are not attractive anymore. Even when you do try, you usually get nothing. Even the things he or she used to love about you and find attractive are now just being ignored. This may not mean you have a cheating wife or husband, but it is still here in the signs of cheating because it could lead to him flirting with someone else he or she finds attractive. And flirting usually leads to cheating. Even online affairs/emotional affairs lead to real life cheating, sex and everything that goes with a "real" affair.

28. "I love you" becomes routine, no feeling, and s/he doesn't even say it sometimes if you don't say it first. This is the most painful thing to anyone, when your lover stops saying he or she loves you. If there is no more love between the two of you, divorce might happen. Which is why I strongly recommend not to confront a cheating husband or wife before gathering enough evidence for you to win full custody of your children or other assets. The most important is the children, who you would like to raise yourself since I'm sure you wouldn't want them to grow up with a lying, cheating person. When to think about getting a divorce.

29. Doing something nice for your spouse makes him or her emotional, or you notice him or her being depressed or seem like they are thinking of alot of things. Doing nice things for your cheating spouse, be it cooking his favorite meal, or buying her flowers unexpectedly, will make them so full of guilt that it will hurt. Tell them things like "I'm the luckiest person to have found you" will stick in their minds for a long time, and they may even confess and beg for forgiveness if they truly love you.

30. Cheaters will not wear their wedding ring. The things that were usually okay to leave in the car, are now removed whenever he/she has to use it. (kid's toys, child safety seat, rattles, kid's DVDs etc) Maybe even buying a totally new car just for him/her to use is not unheard of. If your spouse looks like they are single when they leaves the car, that's exactly what they look like to other people. Single people, especially if you're a woman, get hit on by the opposite sex. Your spouse looking like they are single is an invitation to other single people.

31. Your husband or wife would rather be among friends and work "overtime" than spend quality time at home with you and the kids. When you ask for a phone number, he gives excuses like "We won't stay there for long" or "Jack got a new place, he doesn't have a phone yet" or when you call his cellphone, it's almost always turned off or he rushes talking to you because he is at "work".

32. You notice your spouse is starting to act like they do not care about the future of your marriage or relationship. They make little to no effort to move forward in your relationship. This is common in new relationships when the other person finds someone else they would like to be with. In marriages, this could possibly mean divorce, especially if it is a new marriage where the husband or wife doesn't seem serious.

33. A cheating wife or husband would rather do something else like read a magazine, book, website than actually be intimate with you in bed or do anything with you other than the necessary things they have to do. Cheating wives also refuse to have sex because she is more interested in her new lover. She may even lie and say she has her period, so it would be wise for you to take note of her period, women that have irregular periods will be harder to track, but you will be able to tell if you know where she keeps her feminine products. A very easy way for you to know if she is lying.

34. This is more of a tip for women. When your cheating husband suddenly WANTS to do the laundry, something is wrong. When was the last time your husband ever wanted to do the laundry? Yes, never. At least for me this was true. This could mean he is trying to hide something, or he wants to make sure there are no lipstick marks or anything you can find on his clothes.

35. Your cheating husband or wife tries to divert your attention to the problems of other people, such as your relatives, neighbors, his or her coworkers, friends, anyone you know, to keep the topic off him or herself to cover up his secret affairs and unanswered questions.

36. Your cheating spouse has some "injuries" on their back, neck, thighs, etc. When you ask what happened, your cheating spouse will be unable to answer, shrug it off, or give some absurd excuse like being caught on wire or something like that. But if you check their clothes, you see nothing that would lead you to believe they got caught on wire or whatever excuse they give you.

37. Like the sudden new taste in music, your cheating spouse might also get new lingo or starts talking in a different manner than he or she used to. Especially if they have been having an affair for quite some time now, mannerisms of couples can't be helped, they rub off on each other.

38. A cheating spouse will be emotionally unavailable to you and when you try to confide in him or her, he or she does not open up like they used to, instead they get defensive and secretive, like they are keeping something from you and want their privacy.

39. When your spouse actually wants to have sex with you, it's usually because they want to try something different. Perhaps a different sexual position you have never tried, or maybe even fantasizing about something you have never done. Sometimes, they may even openly tell you that they want to fantasize about cheating. They tell you it's nothing, just something different, but they would probably be thinking of their other lover and it might excite them that they are telling you directly while having intercourse. It is some type of psychological disorder that make people want to do this.

40. The opposite of not wanting to have sex with you. When a cheating spouse cannot be with their other lover, maybe because the other person has to leave for awhile, they may actually "practice" some of the things they do with you.

41. All of his/her "overtime" does not show up on your spouse's paycheck. Confrontation makes them angry and actually turns the tables and asks you why you keep thinking of cheating, maybe you're the one having an affair. Facts are facts, you don't need any special type of spy software for this. If the paycheck does not reflect the overtime they've spent, there was no overtime or your spouse did it for free. What do you think is the more likely answer?

42. You asked around and found out from his or her office that he took a sick day, more than once, in the past few months. If your spouse doesn't have an answer for this, it's most likely infidelity you have on your hands.

43. Your spouse accidentally says a name while sleeping, and it has happened on several occasions. After confronting them, they tell you that you are crazy or imagining things, then shrug it off.

44. Sometimes relatives or other close friends are the first to notice something is wrong. They might be able to tell before you that you might have a cheating spouse because you are in denial or they notice that your relationship with your husband or wife has changed within the last few months.

45. A cheating spouse, especially those that are having an online or emotional affair, will spend hours on end chatting or emailing on the computer. They will usually say they are working, and close the laptop or computer when you come to see what exactly they are working on.

46. Sneaking out of the house. Usually happens at night when you are a sleep. Installing hidden camers will help pick out these late night meetings, or help assure you that you know what is happening when you are out of the house.This isn't very common, unless you suspect your neighbor as the cheating partner.

47. Your spouse is offended that you check up on them, and asks you why you need to know every single detail about his or her day, even if you used to do this and he or she actually welcomed your concern for how their day went.

48. A cheating husband or wife will usually go out for groceries or shopping and come home hours later than he or she normally would. This becomes easy to track when you are in a long time relationship or marriage because you would know how long the other takes to do things like this, and can easily tell if something is out of the ordinary. If you ask what took him or her so long, they give out the same excuses everytime. Like traffic, or a long line in the mall. Great way to check on this is by monitoring your car's mileage, or use a GPS tracker.

49. You get more "wrong numbers" or people that hang up on you at home than you used to. If you get them more than once a month, and this usually never happens, your spouse may be cheating on you.In 2010 I don't think I've gotten a single wrong number caller.

50. You find sexy lingerie or other intimate objects at home even if you know you did not buy them, and your spouse gives you an unlikely excuse such as "It's a surprise for you" or "I wanted to try something different". If this is seen along with other signs, you may have a cheating spouse that has visitors whenever you are out of the house.

51. Lipstick on clothing, perfume which neither of you own, or after shave on your spouse are some things that you should search for if they let you get close enough to them right when they arrive home.

52. You notice your partner makes significantly less money, or that your spouse doesn't even show you how much money he has in the bank or credit card bills. Usually, for men, they buy their mistresses something everytime they meet up, or pay for hotel rooms or expensive dinners.

53. Your spouse takes vacations or work outings more often. Your wife may say she is visiting her mother, but when you check up, they have no idea where she is.

54. Your wife or husband that is cheating may start eating less at home, or not at all because he/she has been eating out with with the new lover she is having an affair with.

55. A cheating spouse will be less comfy and secretive around you, worried that you might see something out of the ordinary. Will choose to sleep, shower, and do other things you usally do together, alone.

56. Change of tone when speaking on the phone. It may mean your spouse is talking with the person they are cheating with. Stressing a guy name, (for husbands) and a girl name (for wives) to disguise who they are talking to on the other end of the phone is also a common cheating tactic. Cheaters even go so far as to pretend to get mad so that they can "be right there" to fix a problem.

57. Your partner hides or puts their cellphone under their pillow when they go to sleep. Secrecy is always a cause for concern, especially if there is a chance you might be dealing with infidelity / adultery. It's completely obvious to anyone who has been married for some time, because there are no secrets between lovers. There shouldn't be.

58. You might think you heard your cheating spouse having phone sex, but are unsure if it was real, or you are being overly paranoid. This happens all the time when cheating is involved. The cheaters start looking for more thrills and they cheat on you(using the phone) while you are at home, but unaware. They may use their other cellphone to avoid you finding out the number, luckily we have cellphone spies to help us. If they are foolish enough to use the home phone, try a reverse phone lookup to find out where that number is located in.

59. Sleeping patern is different even if he or she wasn't out of town or up all night working at home (where you can see him or her). This could be caused by their living a double life. Having a secret life will cause stress, anxiety and lack of sleep. Your spouse may lash out on you and blame you for not getting enough rest because you keep on "nagging" him or her, when all you want is some quality time.

60. Trust your instincts. If you think your spouse is cheating on you, there is a high chance that they are. The most vital sign that your husband or wife is cheating is you being here. You wouldn't be here if you didn't think he or she was cheating on you.

I hope these signs help you find out if you have a cheating husband or a cheating wife. If you would like to contribute anything, please get my contact details from the contact page. For help on how to catch a cheating spouse, see the sidebar for links to my article with details on how to catch a cheating husband using a keylogger and cellphone spies. (applies to both sexes). I've updated the blog and the sidebar now has links to the cheating spouse guide, a compilation of all the ways you can use to catch them cheating.

Please be reminded that these signs are here to help you in figuring out if you have a cheating spouse, not a guide to confronting a cheating spouse. Before you confront them make sure to have undeniable facts backing you up.

If you're still living in denial, or refuse to accept the fact that you MAY have a cheating husband or a cheating wife, I'd like to leave you with a quote taken from a very reliable source, Oprah.

"In a new study conducted by marriage counselor M. Gary Neuman, it's estimated that one in 2.7 men will cheat—and most of their wives will never know about it. "

This quote was taken from an article in Oprah's website "Why Men Cheat", it's a very good read, enjoy and good luck with your relationship.

Husband is cheating but shows no signs

You can feel he is cheating, but he doesn't show signs of cheating.

Do you have a feeling that your husband is cheating on you? You've read signs of a cheating husband but he shows little to none of them. But you still have a feeling that your husband is cheating on you, read on and hopefully this will help you catch a cheating husband.

Sometimes it is very difficult to tell whether a husband is cheating on you. There are some husbands or boyfriends that are very good liars, they may actually become more loving and caring when they are cheating/having an affair to help cover up the fact they ARE cheating. They make sure you have no doubt on whether or not they are faithful.

Some signs that can help clue you in on whether or not your husband is cheating on you:

1. Suddenly your husband is more loving or caring than he usually is. This happens every time he has to go out, or will tell you that he is going out, and when your husband gets back home. When you ask about the details, you husband is usually always giving you vague details.

2. You catch your husband off guard. You call his workplace to check if he is doing overtime, but he isn't. You call his friend's place to check if they are hanging out, but his friend has no idea where hs is. You try calling his cellphone but it is turned off. Then you tell him about it when he gets home, he makes something up and gets testy about it and ask you if you're trying to call him a cheater. A cheating husband will often try to justify his actions by being defensive or even aggressive when he finds out you're getting to the part where you'll ask him if he is cheating.

3. He actually jokes about cheating. My longtime boyfriend, and now ex husband, used to do this when he was cheating on me. I would ask him where he was going, he would say "I have to go see my hot little mistress now..hahaha just kidding honey, I'm going to hang out with the guys, beers, sports, the usual." I don't know what kind of sick person does this, but it does happen. I think this is a psychological thing that they actually enjoy it more if they lie to your face before they cheat on you. I actually believed him during the early stage, but then it started happening all too often. If it wasn't the "guys" it was work, which always happened after dinner. I caught my husband cheating by using cellphone spy tools. (check around this website for some spy tools) Some cellphone spies will allow you to listen in on calls and read text messages. Check them out, they will be worth your time.

4. The really good liars are the cheating husbands that actually get mad at you and pick fights. They will pick fights right before they leave, so he would have a reason to turn off his cellphone or ignore you and not tell you where he is going. If you husband is picking fights with you when you ask him where he is going, or where he has been, you shoul be suspicious that your husband is hiding something.

If you haven't already done so, check out some of the ways found on this website on how to catch a cheating husband. Cellphone spies are cheap and effective, another substitute for private investigators.