We've been getting alot of comments recently from some of the male viewers of this site saying we are biased and only talk about men cheating. While it's true that the name of the site (how to catch a cheating husband) targets cheating men, we also talk about cheating women. I suppose it would be less offensive to men if we named the site how to catch cheating spouses instead. But back when this site started, it was just me writing about my experiences with infidelity, now some readers send their own thoughts and some friends contribute too. My husband now who was also once cheated on(when he still wasn't married) also contributes.
I do believe that times have changed and men and women both equally cheat now. In my personal opinion, the only reason men cheated more than women before is because women did not have as much opportunities to cheat than men did. In today's world women and men both work and women are not just house wives anymore (not saying being a housewife is easy, it's a full time job that requires alot of patience). I also believe that women nowadays have the advantage and can cheat easier than men can. If both a man and woman work outside their homes, the woman can easily cheat compared to a man simply because they call the shots when and if they would want to start an affair or sexual relationship.
Another factor I believe in why statistics show men cheat5-10% more than women is because some experts say women are better liars than men. "The biggest difference is that women are much better at keeping their affairs secret"- Dr David Holmes
Dr Holmes also states that "If you look at the studies into paternity, even conservative figures show that between 8 and 15% of children haven't been fathered by the man who thinks he's the biological parent." That's quite a number of cheating wives, and there are probably a lot more who have kept their secret better. Don't underestimate a cheating housewife just because they stay at home, they could cheat when they are on shopping trips, or have other people over when you are out of town.
Dr Holmes then goes on to say that "Women are better liars because they're more psychologically sophisticated", "You can argue about whether it's nature or nurture, but women are programmed to be much more relationship and people orientated than men." "Emotionally, they make plans and have strategies, while men are more impulsive." Dr Holmes also talks about how as children, young girls will often day dream about the life that they'd want to have, down to the details of it such as how many kids, what kind of house, etc. Holmes goes on and adds that "Most men don't really develop that facility until they're much older. They live, psychologically, in the moment, while women think around corners and two steps ahead." which makes them better at cheating on their spouses and keeping it secret.
Men on the other hand have affairs and feel really big about themselves that they want to tell one of their buddies about it. Which is why when questioned about it, they will usually admit and sometimes even be proud of it. Women "collect and select", they are programmed to collect males and stick to the quality male to start a family/relationship with. It's programmed in our minds just like how men are programmed to have intercourse with as much women as they can to spread their genes.
It isn't as surprising that statistics show men 5-10% ahead of women when it comes to cheating, women keep secrets better than men do!
2 comments:
I showed this to my wife and she told me she has never had an emotional affair. Id id it because she keeps talking to some dude on facebook.pissing me off she won't admit it when I clearly caught her when I was pretending to be sleeping
Why not tell her to come clean and talk about it? I would stop the problem right now while they are just chatting.
That is on of the signs of an emotional affair; and when emotional affairs turn serious, physical intimacy soon follows.
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