Catching a Cheating Wife Vs Husband

Why would there be a difference between catching a husband cheating, and catching a wife cheating? Mainly because it is more common for the wife to stay at home, and for the husband to work. All methods listed in this site can be used to catch a cheating spouse, or detect an affair, but some methods may be more effective for husbands, and some for wives. You can ignore this article if your wife is not a housewife, and just use the catch a cheating spouse guide.

If you haven't already, you may want to read the page on "signs of a cheating spouse" before continuing. Knowing the signs, and then gathering evidence is what we recommend. Blind accusations will just cause relationship stress (plus make your spouse a better cheater).

Here's a breakdown on the current methods we talk about.

Cellphone Spies - This is equally useful for catching both a wife or a husband. Even if in most relationships the husband is the one who goes out to work, everyone in this day and age has a cellphone. Even my mom, who is in her 60s, has a cellphone. So this method is on the top of the list because it works well for both husbands and wives, is cheap, and available world wide. The only downside to this is if your spouse is not using a personal cellphone, and is provided one by the company they work for. This takes the top spot for catching a cheating spouse, it's like a keylogger for your cellphone bundled up with GPS cellphone tracking.

Keyloggers - This method won't work as much for people who use computers/laptops that are not their own. Work computers for example, are protected by the companies who own them. You most likely are not allowed to install anything, and if you are, it is recorded. Installing any monitoring device on anything you do not own is illegal. So if your husband rarely uses the computer/laptop at home, this won't be as effective as the cellphone spy. If you suspect your wife of cheating on you, and she just stays at home, then this would be a good option to catch her cheating because it is more likely that she uses the computer to talk to other people. This is also as cheap as the cellphone spy, depending on whether or not you opt for the hardware or software version keylogger. Software, be it cellphone spies, or keyloggers, are always cheaper than their hardware counterparts.

Hidden Cameras - Perfect to catch a cheating wife that stays at home and doesn't work out of the house. If you want to know if your spouse gets visits from people while you aren't home, consider using a motion activated hidden camera, so you can set it and forget it for a few days. It only activates when it detects movement, so that saves you a lot of hard drive space. Not as effective for cheating husbands unless he uses your car, and you can find a portable camera to install there. Portable surveillance equipment costs more than regular "plug in" camera equipment. I wouldn't spend more money to get a camera with better resolution. I would recommend the cheapest hidden camera or portable hidden camera you can get, the lower the resolution the better (cause it's cheaper). We aren't looking to make a home movie, we're trying to find out what is happening behind the scenes. Buying multiple lower resolution cameras is better than buying some HD super camera that can zoom in etc.

GPS Car trackers - A lot more useful for cheating spouses that work, or leave the house regularly. These are cheap, you can find some ranging from $30+-$40+, some of the more expensive ones require a monthly subscription though. Not as effective for cheating spouses who do not leave the house. May work for a wife that takes those 5 hour "shopping trips". GPS trackers can be replaced by simply remembering how many miles your spouse drives when they go to work/shop, and checking your mileage. Knowing your spouse's daily routine will save you some cash, but the downside to that is you can't PROVE they are lying. With a GPS tracker, you have solid data to backup your claims. This is also the method which my mother used when my father cheated on her, but it was a cellphone GPS tracker that a service provider had built in. It's original purpose was to help you locate your phone if you lost it, or it got stolen. But I guess it also helped her know that she was being cheated on.

Digital Voice Recorders - Another way that works best against cheating housewives vs spouses that work out of the house. Read the article for some suggested placements of your voice recorders, as well as two product recommendations. I bought two models of the cheaper one so I can monitor more areas vs the other model with more storage. Be sure to get a voice recorder that has voice activated recording features to save on storage and time sifting through hours of silence. One of the better methods, but you'd have to spend a minimum of $30.

Baiting Your Cheating Spouse - The best FREE method of catching your spouse cheating. Is this the same as impersonation? No, not really. Impersonation is when you call up credit card companies, or phone providers and fish for private details such as who owns what phone or what credit card charges were made while pretending to be the person, or their spouse. With this method, you are just going to fish for your spouse's cheating stories by pretending to be someone that is willing to cheat with them. I consider this the best free method of catching a cheating husband or wife because it has a chance of you finding out their secret email addresses or phone numbers. If you are low on cash and can't afford any of the tools mentioned here, there is cost in trying to bait a cheater into confessing to an affair.

Tracking Your Spouse's Internet Activities - This works well with the above method, and it's free as well. Not too effective if your spouse knows how to clear their internet browsing history. But if they don't, you will know what sites they visit, what they search on Google, and if they view porn sites secretly while you're away.

Private Investigators - Hired professionals. No question about it, this is THE best way to know whether or not your spouse is cheating. These guys are professionals, they make their living out of finding out the truth and providing information. Private Eyes will always get the job done, they employ all the methods found on this site, and some of their own. The only reason I recommend them last is because they are EXTREMELY costly compared to keyloggers, cellphone spies, and hidden cameras. If you plan on hiring a private eye, don't be surprised if the bill reaches the 4 digit range.

When I say I think it's the best way to know if she's cheating, I mean that for private investigators who have a good record. Be sure to check out the guide linked above to help you in selecting a private investigator. Don't just hire someone because they are your only option in your area. If they have a horrible record, you'd best do it yourself. And if you've had some experience with private investigators, please consider sharing it on the Private Investigator Reviews page, for the benefit of those people who in the future need help selecting a good P.I. company.

View things from the other side, learn how your husband will cheat on you by reading the "How To Cheat On Your Wife" article. Just to be clear, I DO NOT CONDONE CHEATING ON YOUR WIFE. This is just to show you some ways that your husband can cheat on you, and how they may avoid detection. It's a spin from the regular article where we talk about how to catch a cheater, it may be more eye opening when "reverse engineered".

Video Surveillance Equipment

The last post was about different types of Hidden spy cameras, in this post we will look at some examples of other types of surveillance equipment.

This tiny spy cam (click picture for more pics/details) is prolly the best you will get for 60 bucks. It has it all. It's a miniature colored nanny cam WITH a microphone. The details on the site say it works well up to 200 feet, but you won't be needing it to work far beyond 20+ feet, unless you live in a mansion or something. This is great for keeping in flower pots, bookshelves or anywhere small enough that your cheating spouse will not suspect him or her being recorded by your hidden spy cams. This miniature surveillance unit can be powered direct or by battery. It's best to spend a little more buying extra or rechargeable 9 volt batteries instead of opting to use a powersupply so you can really get it in those tiny areas. Almost forgot, choose the battery because this whole unit is wireless, unless you opt to use power supply. Pretty impressive for just 60 bucks. For a size comparison with a dime, click here.


The next Surveillance equipment we'll talk about is the type you usually see on spy films like James Bond or Mission impossible. It's a video spy pen. Sure it sounds silly, but it works, and it's cheap. You can lay it around the computer/desk that your cheating spouse uses, and just check out what's in it after he/she is done. I wouldn't give it to them as a gift though, cause they might lose your spy equipment or drop it.

For 40 bucks, you will get this spy pen(click picture for more details). The video recording on this is surprisingly clear, 640x480 with a 30 frames per second. Can also use it to take pictures. The low memory though (4 gigabytes) makes it not very suitable to leave on overnight. If you want something you can leave on overnight to spy on your cheating husband or wife, the first hidden spy cam would be a much better option.

If you are interested in only knowing what your cheating spouse is doing online (chat/email) then take a look at the keylogger page, if you want to just spy on cellphones, take a look at the cellphone spy page. I will try to post more for each example when I have time, right now work is killing me. Good luck.

Disclaimer :
Please remember that monitoring a cellphone YOU DON'T OWN is illegal. So is attaching a GPS device on a car you don't own. Any kind of monitoring you do should be on a piece of equipment or property that YOU DO OWN. You are responsible for your own actions and the actions of the people you hire (private investigators).

Catch A Cheat With Hidden Spy Cams

In the past articles we have discussed about using keyloggers, cellphone spies, and hiring a private investigator to catch your spouse cheating. Now we'll take a look at what hidden spy cameras can do to help us. For a compilation of ways to catch a cheater, click on the catch a cheating spouse guide.

There are different types of hidden spy cameras available. Some record 24/7 into a hard drive, so you don't miss anything. Some only record when it detects movement. Most of these can and should, if you suspect your husband or wife is cheating on you, be installed by yourself. A hidden spy camera is small, and most of them can easily fit unnoticed in your bookshelf, or plants. I believe you've seen some hidden spy camera videos from "nanny cams" in movies where they hide them in stuffed bears.

Before you buy a hidden spy cam, you should make sure you know what you are getting. There are some surveillance camera equipment that can cost upwards of a thousand dollars, which have more features than you would ever need. Some features that are not really necessary in detecting a cheating partner are things like audio recording, night vision, or such things like heat sensors. Way too overkill, we are looking for something that would confirm or deny our beliefs that we have cheating spouses, not be a voyeur and watch the actual physical cheating.

Lets face it, if your wife takes a guy home without your knowledge of it, and she goes into a room with the guy where you have installed a hidden camera and turns off the light, you don't really need any heat sensors or night vision in your camera to tell that they are cheating. So unless you WANT to see your spouse actually CHEATING on you, I'd get the cheapest hidden spy camera available to you at any of your local electronics shop. If you'd rather not be seen buying things like that, look for a cheap one on amazon.

Be sure to read the requirements, you may try to save money by getting the cheapest one, but you may fail to read the requirements. Some people accidentally buy just the lense of the hidden camera, but not the actual camera or database to store the footage. Most digital cameras can be directly wired to a computer hard drive.

Things we should look for in purchasing security camera equipment are just the basics. Small, easily concealable, and preferably(might cost more depending where you are) one with motion detection. You can choose to get audio recorders with your security equipment, but do you really want to know what your spouse and the person he/she is cheating on you with are saying? If you do, then the motion sensor cameras should be what you should aim for as the hard drive your hidden cam will need will be a lot bigger if you want to record both video and audio.

Places to install your hidden spy cameras would be near a couch, any room that has a bed, the kitchen, and possibly the bathrooms. This is why it's important to get the cheapest hidden spy equipment you can get your hands on, because it would be unfortunate to catch them entering the door, but then having only one unit, you will not see what they do when they get passed your one camera.

What we need is proof that your spouse had an affair, if they can lie their way out of vague footage, it's best not to show them or tell them we caught them with someone because you can be sure they will never get caught again. And continue to deny any signs of cheating.

Also, if you don't want to buy your own video cameras to place around your house, most private investigators (in the US) can install their cameras for you. Be sure to compute the rates before deciding which one is better suited for you, because private investigators can be pricey, especially if you are hiring them to do home surveillance AND tail your cheating wife/husband.

On the other hand, if you are on a tight budget, you could also just "bug" your house with some audio surveillance/spy equipment. These are much cheaper, and I'm sure you'll know if your spouse is cheating on you or not by listening to their conversations, or whatever else they may do behind your back. The downside is, unless you know the person's voice your spouse is cheating on you with, you won't get an idea who they are or where they met unless your mate comes clean with you.

For those who can only spare a few bucks, the best option I can recommend is getting a cellphone spy that has GPS tracking.

Disclaimer :
Please remember that monitoring a cellphone YOU DON'T OWN is illegal. So is attaching a GPS device on a car you don't own. Any kind of monitoring you do should be on a piece of equipment or property that YOU DO OWN. You are responsible for your own actions and the actions of the people you hire (private investigators).