Cheating stories - cheating husband

Confession of a cheating husband

This was very unexpected and I did not know how to respond. So its post date is a bit delayed. A cheating husband who actually emailed me.

Very unexpected.

Update 2011: Please use the cheating spouse stories page to share your experience instead of emailing me directly. I will still reply to emails, but it takes a lot longer than if you leave a comment.

from Andrew ***** <*****@yahoo.com>
reply-to *****@yahoo.com
to catchacheateradmin at g mail dotcom
date Thu, Jan 5, 2009 at 9:52 PM
subject My confession
mailed-by yahoo.com
signed-by yahoo.com

I'm a compulsive liar.

I don't know what to do anymore. I'm too far in to just openly confess to my wife that I have been cheating on her. I'm afraid it is too late to come clean and she will leave me. We don't have kids yet. I still love my wife. We've been married for 3 years. I wasn't always like this. The thought of another woman just drives me crazy now. I don't know when it started, it just is like this right now, and has been for the past year or so. I finally gave in to my urges. My wife is still very attractive, she gets hit on by guys younger than her sometimes. I don't know why I started cheating. I started cheating on her by first joining adult websites and started flirting with other single women, sometimes I pretended to be single, sometimes I openly admitted I was married. I found it more of a turn on when I openly admitted my wife was not home and I have been married for 3 years. The affair has been going on for 2 months, we have had intercourse several times. It's getting worse as the girl I met from *******.com seems to have the same fetish/problem I have, she wants me to take her to our house and have intercourse in our bed. We have only been to motels together.

I am almost certain that my wife knows about this or suspects something is wrong as I have been cold for the past couple of months, I don't know what to do. I tried different things in the bedroom and spending more time with her, but I just don't feel anything for her anymore. I'm ashamed to admit that I even read your signs to find out if your husband is cheating just so I could do the opposite and AVOID her finding out. I just wanted to share this with you even if you classify people like me as "cheating bastards", any advice you can give me I will try to put in action. Found you through the chat cheaters forum and your posts made me feel terribly guilty, as if I wasn't already.

Andrew

It's simple, STOP cheating on your wife, tell her openly if you want to continue with your relationship. If you don't want to continue your relationship, tell her that too. Be civil about it and don't wait for her to catch you cheating.

Cheating husbands, no matter why or how they started cheating, need to tell their wives. Judging from your email, you don't want to continue your relationship with her anymore. Stop wasting her time and tell her that you're cheating on her. At least let her get on with her life and find a relationship that she can be happy in.

I'm not sure if this email is to provoke me or annoy me but I decided to post it anyway. Sorry if you are being sincere but I just hate cheating spouses.

If you love your wife, and you want to stop being a cheat, tell her openly and ask her to forgive you. See a marriage councilor. You may have some sort of fetish that makes you lose control and cheat on your wife.

Because of this, I'm actually going to research on marriage councilors, so whether or not this email was just to annoy me, it also gave me some ideas.

Go tell her everything. Right now. Skip work tomorrow if you have to. Go tell your wife everything right now before she actually starts thinking of ways to catch a cheating spouse. If she loves you, she will always forgive you, although the trust won't come back instantly, it will in time.

I don't consider EVERY husband that cheats a cheating bastard. Some cheating spouses actually want to change, and cheat because of some sort of psychological disorder they have.

Read Cheating Husband - Hope to cope so you know what to expect once you tell your wife that you WERE a cheating husband.

Good luck and TELL YOUR WIFE,
-Kris

Cheating Stories - Cheating Husband Caught 1

This is where the emails that I have received from people that have visited and would like to share their experience on cheating husbands will be posted. There is no cheating wife section yet well, because there aren't any emails about that yet. I only post emails of people that WANT me to post it, either anonymously or with a name you chose.

January 2011 Update : All emails sent, will be posted at cheating spouse stories page. If you would like to leave a comment about your experiences instead of an email, please do so there. It's for the benefit of future readers who are in a similar situation as yourselves. Also feel free to post on the forum, no registration is needed. It's just there for people that want to vent and/or give advice.

I would like to thank Hanna I. for allowing me to share her story about her cheating husband and how she caught her cheating husband.

from Hanna I M**** <********@ymail.com>
reply-to *********@ymail.com
to catch a cheater admin at g mail dot com
date Sun, Dec 26, 2008 at 7:24 PM
subject Story of how I found out my husband cheated.
signed-by ymail.com


Hi Kris? (I was wondering what your name was)

This is how it started.

I noticed that my husband who is..or WAS always sweet and caring slowly changed into a cold, silent person over the years. We have been married for 5 years, and just last year (2007) he was starting to give me the impression that something was going wrong. An affair maybe? I thought it was stupid of me to think that because he's my HUSBAND, he would never do that to me.

We rarely had sex. It was not my fault, he just wasn't interested in sex anymore.

I thought he was having a midlife crisis because he kept buying expensive clothes, watches, even a new car on his birthday.

He stayed out more hours than he should after work (he is an IT consultant). Often came home late. I used to wait for him and not eat dinner until I got used to him not eating at home, and whenever he came home he headed straight to bed, or the shower.

I always asked him at night when we were in bed together if something was wrong. All I get is the cold shoulder and sometimes he would even get irritated that I keep asking "stupid" questions.

I was suspicious of him cheating before, but this is just getting worse. I could not sleep or even eat anymore when he wasn't home. And when he was home, sundays, he was either too tired or too busy with work to do anything with me.

I decided to purchase a keylogger and put it on our home computer. I didn't even know what a keylogger was, but after doing thorough research, I purchased and installed it with not much problem. I have attached the following IM conversation in this email

Maybe this was all "fantasy" since it's just online chat, so I decided to spy on his cellphone too. I tracked where he was, and his stories did not match what I found. I kept at it for a month until I decided to confront him about his lies.

He admitted that he saw some "friends" after work and it was nothing. The online chat transcripts proved different, so did the cellphone tracker that I bought. And this very much explains his secrecy and phone calls to unknown numbers.

We are now in the process of divorce and I am glad to not waste any more time with him. Wish me luck, and thank you for your kind emails and support.

Hanna I** *****

Please send us an update when you have finished dealing with your cheating husband. This is all I will share for now, as the IM conversations are too long, and very inappropriate language is used. If you would like to censor some details, then feel free to resend it, or maybe a shorter transcript. Thank you again, Hana, and feel free to keep emailing or PMing me in the forum we met each other from.

By the way, that reason I don't post names is that both me(Kris, the one you met at the forum) and my husband post here.(mike, the one who writes about the men's side, cause he thinks I'm being unfair, and he also gives his input before posting. lol)

I'm working on more anti cheater articles, and I'm going to gather more information now about evidence, legal action, and divorce. Would help me greatly if you shared what keylogger you used.