How to Catch a Cheating Husband

Cheating spouse on the internet

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Thu, 20 Aug 2009 04:04:00 +0000

Here's an email I received from someone who found this site and thinks she has a cheating husband. Cheating often starts from the interenet, and it is not uncommon that a cheating spouse on the internet is using online chatrooms to meet other people.(And I am terribly sorry for almost a month in delay for replying to this, I have been busy in real life.)

Hello,

My husband clears the history after being on the computer and I confronted him in the past about searching adult porn sites. My question is, would that be considered a form of cheating? I feel as though it is because it is in his heart maybe not outward cheating but his eyes are on other woman. I'm just confused and torn over it.

Any advise would help from you.

Thanks,

A

For men, and even some women, watching porn is just a normal thing and I would not consider it cheating at all, so I don't think you have any problems A. You could even support him and watch it together. Let your spouse tell you his or her fantasies, and then do it with them or at least try and show your spouse you care about it. It's one of the topics that are discussed in marriage counseling. Not only will you prevent a cheating spouse, you will also strengthen your emotional, and sexual bonds together.

Now what I DO consider cheating is when your spouse goes on the internet to find other women/men to talk to behind your back. This online form of cheating is usually done in Yahoo chat rooms/MSN/ or any other chatrooms online, especially ones that allow webcams or "cam2cam". If you find out that your spouse is doing this, then you better be worried and start confronting him/her. A keylogger or spy program would allow you to view/read the chat transcripts of cheating spouses, or just find out if your spouse is indeed cheating on you on the internet. It is much more difficult to find out if they are having an online affair in chatrooms simply because there is no history or log files, or they could easily just delete those logs or are protected by YMessenger/MSN, which is why a keylogger is necessary to catch cheating spouses.

Some husbands/wives who are still young, early to late twenties, are into this thing called "MMORPGs". It stands for Massively Multiplayer Online Role Playing Games. There are alot of older men using this platform to find younger women too. An example of an MMORPG would be the popular game by Blizzard called "World of Warcraft", if your husband or wife plays this, you should know what it is. It is like a 3D chatroom where people can play together and meet other people. A few commenters on this blog have also pointed out that their husbands use this game to meet younger girls, and then get their MSN/YM IDs and chat with them there, bringing the relationship outside the game.

Playing games and chatting online with the opposite sex is fine and all, but watch out for any signs of an emotional affair. It is very easy to get emotionally attached to someone when you play games or chat with them for several hours each day, and you don't want an emotional affair to develop any further and have your spouse cheat on you.

Remember A, men just like watching adult videos, it doesn't always mean that they want to cheat. It will make them happy if you show them that you are interested and share their fantasies with them. Restricting him from watching it is what might even make him turn into a cheating husband, since you're taking away a form of entertainment from him.

Good luck, A.

Is your car being tracked by GPS?

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 05:41:00 +0000

In the previous article, GPS car tracking, I listed all the benefits of having GPS car tracking on your suspected cheating husband or wife's car. This article will teach you how to detect if you are the one being tracked by GPS. This article is especially useful if your cheating spouse is tech savy and may somehow be on to you and your detective work. Some cheating husbands or cheating wives might actually put a GPS tracking device on your car, cellphone, or bag to know where you are so he or she can freely go with their new partners without being detected. Some cars may already have GPS installed for security reasons, such as car theft, so it will be useful to know how to detect and disable someone from tracking where you are.

How do I detect GPS tracking devices?

Take it to a mechanic for a full inspection. Allow the mechanic to check inside the car also, common places a GPS tracker is hidden at is under the dashboard of the car, somewhere inside the glove compartment, and under the chairs.

Another method, if taking the car to a mechanic is not an option and if you are trying to detect a portable GPS device, is to purchase an RF detector. An RF detector is used to detect the GPS devices when they are transmitting the location to the tracker. So your only problem is that you will have to check/scan for the GPS tracker for long periods of time, sometimes multiple checking is required because it may not be always transmitting. But it's a sure way of detecting a GPS car tracker if your car has one.

There are also ways that involve signal jamming, but we won't get into that as it is illegal.

This site has helpful info on how to detect GPS tracking devices and other articles and links about everything related to GPS.

Catch a Cheating Spouse With GPS Car Tracking

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Wed, 22 Apr 2009 05:19:00 +0000

What is GPS car tracking?

GPS Car tracking is when you attach a GPS device (hidden from plain view) and monitor the car's location via a tracker unit which you hold safe. A GPS (Global Positioning System) car tracker will help you in determining exactly where your spouse, or at least his or her car is at.

Obviously an important tool in determining whether you have infidelity problems in your marriage or relationship. This option is best suited for those who do not have that much cash to spend for hiring private investigators.

A GPS car tracking unit will help you know the truth, if your husband or wife is lying to you. A cheating spouse will most likely take a day off from work, and not tell you, then head off to meet the person they are cheating on you with. This is where a GPS car tracker, or other such GPS devices which you can attach secretly to his or her things (briefcase etc) comes in handy.

And no, you do not need to be technically savy to operate any of the GPS devices to catch you cheating husband or wife. It's a simple process which involves attaching the tiny GPS tracker to their car, or any other place that won't be easily found, and then monitoring it with the GPS device which shows you on a map where the exact location of the tracker is. Most recommendable products come with a handy step by step instruction, and tech support if you do have any problems.

There are various choices for GPS tracking, not just attachments to your car. There are GPS tracking for cell phones too, which costs a monthly subscription (ask about this from your supplies, as prices vary from more or less than $10 a month), and several other types of GPS handheld devices. Cellphone GPS trackers are an alternative, if your spouse does not use a car to get around.

How would GPS car tracking help me with my cheating spouse?

The most important thing to remember is to avoid infidelity, is you need to know the truth. With some men or women, all it takes is a simple conversation, setting of boundaries, and respecting each others needs or desires. Other people just cannot help it and will lie to you, some studies show that there is an innate need for men and some cannot control their physical urges. GPS car tracking or having cellphone spies will help get you out of the dark, what you do about it when you know he or she is lying to you is all up to you, but ofcourse if you really love your spouse you will do everything you can to save your relationship/marriage.

Confrontation is ALWAYS better than remaining idle and waiting for your cheating spouse to correct themselves, they may even be brainwashed by the other person to leave you. Remaining idle will not do anything good for you, when you decide to confront him you will more than likely end up having better self esteem. There are various articles on this site about dealing with infidelity, and marriage counseling.

Confronting a cheating spouse after you know that he or she has been lying about their whereabouts may just save your relationship/marriage, or give you an advantage in court if you plan on going with this option. I recommend any sort of GPS cartracking/Cellphone spies to help put your mind at rest and finally know the truth about what is really happening when he or she is away from the house.

If you are still unsure if you need or want a GPS Car tracker, check out this list of cheating spouse signs. For those of you who do not want to actively look for evidence against your cheating spouse, I have also written a basic guide on how to hire a private investigator, and how to monitor your computer using a keylogger. Be warned though, a GPS car tracker is loads cheaper (and only you get to know the details of the affair) than hiring a private investigator.

Prevent a cheating spose, save your marriage.

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 09:02:00 +0000

Most people often think they know who their spouse is, because of the many years they have been together. Then after a few years of actually being married to them, they notice that their spouse will seem "different" or even the opposite of who they married. People change, and no matter what you think, big events such as getting married will change someone. For men, this can be because they will be "tied down" to you, and just you, for the rest of their life. Some men and women love this and some, after a few years, will eventually feel pressured and this could be one of the reasons for becoming a cheating husband or cheating wife.

To have a successful marriage, it isn't necessary to take pre wedding counseling, but it will greatly insure that you end up with a what you want, a lifetime in a happy marriage. Although there is no guarantee you will end up with a happy marriage, having a pre wedding counseling reduces the chance of you ending up with a man or woman that will cheat on you, and end up leaving you.

Preparation is the key to success in a marriage, the more equipped you are to deal with marriage problems, the less the chance that something will go wrong. Infidelity, adultery, or just plain "falling out of love" can greatly be reduced by spending a few hours taking marriage or couples counseling. A pre-wedding counselling will help reveal if you will end up with the perfect spouse, or it may show you that your wife or husband is not that serious about the marriage, you, and may turn out to be a cheating spouse.

If you seach the net about pre wedding counseling, you will learn that counseling and couples workshops are proven methods in building a lasting happy marriage with your spouse. Relationship workshops will improve the traits that are beneficial to both couples, and reduce the traits that cause problems and lead to divorce.

Some of you may or may not know that you will be getting involved with abusive men, or a women that could cheat on you, and this is just some of the ways marriage/couples counselling can help you. It is better to spend time on this before you begin a marriage, instead of waiting for that time in the future when things go bad and you have to ask yourself that famous questions, "How do I save my marriage?".

If you are already married and did not take any prewedding counciling, the option of taking marriage counciling is still there. If you think you're marriage is deteriorating or is in a rut, this is the perfect time to seek marraige councilling. Although you cannot force your spose to go with you, you can go yourself and learn what it takes to prevent infidelity, or other marriage problems. Going alone, though not as effective, will still lead to a positive change in your relationship

There's no use in forcing your spouse to go seek marriage help, it would less than likely work if you force them to be there because they are not truly interested in changing if you have to force them. If you go yourself, you will learn ways to improve your marriage, such as how to prevent a cheaing spouse, how to spice up your marriage, ways to improve decission making and other useful topics. This is what happens at marriage counseling, and each session covers a different topic that will be focused on helping your marriage. There are also some marriage counseeling session which are all about how to deal with a spouse that cheated on you, which is what I would recommend to anyone dealing with infidelity. It is difficult to forgive a cheater, but in time you will eventually learn to forget.

Preventing cheating spouses, divorce, or fixing up a troubled marriage is always better than jumping ship and heading to the divorce option right away. Try your best to save your marriage, your spouse deserves that from you, even though s/he has changed.

Is your husband cheating on you with a mutual friend?

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Sun, 15 Mar 2009 08:42:00 +0000

Is your husband's "friend" just that, or are they having an affair?

It is perfectly fine for couples to have mutual friends, and it is very normal that your husband may close friends that are women. Just because he has a lot of close friends that are women doesn't mean you have a cheating husband. However if you suspect your husband is cheating on you with a one of those friends and you have noticed some signs of a cheating husband, then you are right in paying more attention and researching more on cheating spouses. Most of the times you can tell if your spose is cheating, but when your instincts go off, it may mean trouble down the road. Is it wrong to suspect your husband is cheting? Is it wrong to check up on your husband's cell phone? If you are doing it because you want to save your relationship and marriage, there is nothing wrong with that at all, and besides that, marriages or serious relationships should have little to no secrets. Especially when it comes to sensitive matters like what your relationship is with the opposite sex, a wife has every right to know these things, and should worry when a husband tries to keep her in the dark.

Affairs usually start out innocent enough, and it is very common to find affairs that started out as friend. In today's world it is not even uncommon for your spouse to be having an affair with the same sex. We'll talk about some signs you should pay close attention to when trying to find out if your husband's friend is not just a friend. Sometimes when people think they are very good at hiding something, they really aren't, and are quite obvious.

Here are a few signs of a cheating husband
These can apply to both sexes, and also if you suspect your husband is secretly gay.

1. Your husband or wife will prefer him or her over you. This is just too obvious, if your husband or wife would put off your plans in place for his or her plan with this "friend", this is a very obvious sign they are more than friends. Of course there are special occasions, like a business deal that needs to be settled right away, or one of his favorite bands suddenly came to town(and you know it for a fact). If this keeps happening more and more, you need to confront him or her about this and tell them you are not getting enough of his time, or you would like to tag along, especially if time spent is with the opposite sex.

2. Intimate conversations. This is one of the harder signs to catch, when your spouse is actually having intimate conversations with the opposite sex, it is an almost 100% sign that they are NOT just friends. By intimate conversations I mean conversations he would only speak to you about, such as telling you a personal problem, sharing a secret, talking about how stressed or depressed he or she is feeling. Things that would fall into the category of couple talk. These are often observed when you talk to the friend who he or she is having conversations with. They may let it slip out, or they may not even know that they shouldn't talk about it infront of you. Maybe they even know something your husband has never told you. To take a more active approach, try to "bait" them into talking about a subject you know only you and your husband has talked about.

3. Discreet phone conversations. When you walk in a room and your husband is having a phone conversation with this friend, does he move away, put down the phone, or tell the friend they will call them back? If your spouse does this, you have to wonder why. Why would your husband or wife not want you in the same room when talking with their friend? What is it that they are trying to hide? If this happens a lot of times in your relationship, confront your spouse. If it has only started happening, and there's an upcoming important event, such as your birthday, anniversary or anything that would warrant a party, then you may just have stumbled upon a surprise party and you have nothing to worry about.

4. Flirting. Another obvious signs, when your husband or wife flirts, they may not notice it, but it is very obvious to other people that they are more than friends. Do friends flirt with each other? Sometimes, maybe as a joke, but if it is done more often than not, then it is definitely a sure sign they are going past the normal friend boundaries. Examples of flirting are either telling each other inside jokes, being overly touchy with each other, tickling, talking and laughing a lot with each other, especially when they think they are alone, or whispering to each other when they are in a crowd. Flirting is a sign that they have developed into something more than a friendship, and all emotional affairs are where cheating husbands or cheating wives start out.

5. Complementing the friend too much. Do you notice your husband or wife giving out compliments to this one friend, but less to other friends, or even less to you? Another obvious sign to watch out for. When you ask about this, all your spuse does is shrug it off or tell you they don't notice it and you're making up things. There are situations though that this person deserves the complements, but this doesn't always mean your husband should be throwing complements all year round. More than friends, possibly(coupled with other signs, yes), cheating on you, not a very revealing sign but worth it to pay attention to catch a husband before he gets to the cheating part.

6. The famous calling out of a different name in their sleep. There's really nothing more needed to say about this, it's in a spouse's natural instincts to immediately confront after hearing their spouse call out some other person's name. Now if the name calling out happens when both of you are awake, and in the middle of..intimate relationships..you definitely NEED to confront him, because that is as obvious as a sign of a cheating husband can get!

7. You catch your husband or wife having a secret date with this friend. You confront them, and they both are stunned and act like they are hiding something. Of course they will act like that, they're DATING behind your back! At this point, you will need to tell him to stop being friends with this person, or whatever compromise you can think of. If you're a guy, and you catch your wife dating another man, please try to be civil. I know some men cannot control themselves and will immediately resort to violence, but when you do that you risk getting thrown in jail instead of getting back at her by divorcing her, and leaving her sorry that she ever betrayed you by suing her pants off. The feeling you get when you win a divorce case is great, even when you feel down knowing you won and won most of your assets in a divorce just makes it all that better. I still remember the look on my cheating husband's face when I left him after I won, priceless :)

8. Pay attention whenever you confront your husband or wife. When they keep defending or taking the side of the "friend" after you tell them not to see or talk to them anymore, your spouse may be having an emotional affair with them. Close to half of all emotional affairs turn into full time affairs which involve not only emotional intimacy, but also physical intimacy.

9. The "friend" of your wife or husband starts talking about his or her new girl/boyfriend, who remains unnamed. They may talk about the date they have had in a classy place, or the new flowers that were sent to them, or new jewelry, clothes, and maybe even about the wonderful sex they are having together. Watch closely and check your credit card bills, bank account, your spouse's clothes for any crumpled up or balled up receipts.

10. Your husband has become such a "helpful neighbor". He volunteers to help do this and do that, he helps teach her how to use tools, fix her garage, lift heavy equipment, etc. They may all be excuses to hang out with each other. This is not always a sign that they are having sex and your husband is cheating, but it may just mean your husband would want some time to talk or actually hang out. This, like all affairs, can start out innocent at first, but once two people get too close to each other attraction starts to build up. They may find the other helpful, funny, or whatever they find attractive, and they will want more of it. When the emotional affair begins, they will also find that they are getting attracted to each other physically, and will eventually want to have physical relationships. So if you can, whenever your spouse offers to help this "friend", try to accompany them to make sure no boundaries are crossed.

In order for you to have a happy marriage or relationship, you have to have the proper marriage principles. Just by having proper marriage principles, you can avoid or prevent infidelity altogether. The boundaries of your marriage will be kept intact and neither of you will break it, both of you will be satisfied and avoid neglecting each other, you'll end up spending more time together and making more mutual decision on things or activities you do not normally do. The benefits of knowing and abiding by proper marriage principles are just too important to overlook.

It is always better to prevent adultery/infidelity by building a solid foundation in your marriage than dealing with the after effects and coping with your cheating spouse.

Catch cheating husband on valentine's day

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 07:45:00 +0000

Valentine's day is the time most cheating husbands get caught

According to most Private Investigators, it is the month of valentine's day that they have the most business. They say that catching a cheating husband is easier during valentine's day because most of these cheating husbands, even cheating wives, go out with their other lovers.

A cheating husband is forced to meet up with their mistresses, especially if their mistresses do NOT know that they are married. It is common for cheating husbands to keep their marriage secret, this is why you should keep a very close eye on his ring. If he ever comes home without his ring on his ring finger, you should be worried that something is wrong. They have no reason to remove their wedding rings, so why bother, unless they are trying to start another relationship and want to keep their past in the dark.

If your husband is having a secret affair, (online affair or emotional affair) he is going to have to meet up eventually if things develop. And as stated by the private investigators, Valentine's day is when they make the big money. Why? Because assuming the affair, and your husband's marriage is kept secret from both you and the new person he is involved with, they WILL have to go out on valentine's day because their lovers will obviously want to. Maybe they might want to go out with them too, if they are already in love with each other.

This will cause a lot of things to go wrong for you cheating husband, especially if you and him have plans on that same day. Things you should look out for are credit card bills, his pocket money, his bank account, his clothes, where he is, and if you have read on about ways to catch your cheating husband from this site, now is the perfect time to put your keyloggers, cellphone spies, and GPS trackers to good work. If you've taken the extra step to hire your own private investigator, that is awesome. You will have things covered and all you need to do is wait.

Two things can happen, you will either find your husband cheating on you during valentine's day, or finally be able to lift that weight off your shoulders and be secure in knowing you do not have a cheating husband.

If worse comes to worst, you are armed with all the knowledge you can after researching on how to catch a cheating husband that you will come out of this stronger, and win most of your assets in court. Remember, full custody of children is the best thing you can hope for if you ever want to divorce your cheating husband.

You should probably set something up if you haven't already done so, and ask him to go out on a date with you on Valentine's day. You have the right to be paranoid if he does not want to and says he has to work "overtime".

Remember, if you still haven't checked it out, there are tons of information and links on this website to things that will help you catch a cheating husband, such as those cellphone spy programs that will let you read all his text messages, deleted or not, listen in on all his calls, and keyloggers to help you get your husband's computer password and show you his online conversations and emails.

Good luck, and I wish you a happy valentine's day.

Catch a cheating husband - Cellphone spy overview

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 23:29:00 +0000

Overview of cellphone spy programs

If you've never heard of cellphone spy programs, it is basically software that allows a parent to monitor their kid's cellphone calls or text messages. The same programs are being marketed to husbands and wives to check if their spouse is being unfaithful and they have cheating husbands or wives.. These spy programs can be the answer to your questions, "Do I have a cheating husband?", "Who does he always talk to on his cellphone?", "Is he cheating on me?" etc.

Let's start with the most basic type of program, since there are several brands, we'll just call it "cellphone spy 1". Now Cellphone spy 1's capabilities are limited, and usually cost less than $100. Cellphone spy 1 is the usual software program that allows you to read text messages from your cheating husband's phone by taking his sim card, and attaching it to the device which will send it to your pc. This will not only let you read text messages in his inbox, but also text messages that he deleted. Yes, you read that right, text messages he DELETED already. Since most husbands that cheat delete their messages, this tool will show you EVERYTHING.

"Cellphone spy 2", this is just like the first type of software, but the difference is the cost and functions. It is similar because it will let you read the text messages, but it adds the ability to also listen in on the calls.

"Cellphone spy 3", these things are what you want if you're looking for total control over your cheating husband's cellphone. A cheating husband, who is smart enough to know about cellphone spies, will NOT use his cellphone for talking with the person he is cheating on you with and when he does talk to this person, it will be in code. He could change the name of the girl to "Jack" or "John" to disguise it from you even if you have a cellphone spy to read his text messages.

What cellphone spy 3 does different, or more than the other 2, is that this type of cellphone spy will not only allow you to read text message, listen to voice calls, but also control your cheating husband's cellphone. You can silently "call" his cellphone using this cellphone spy program, and listen to what is happening around your cheating husband (as long as the cellphone is with him). If he turns off the cellphone, it will NOT actually be turned off, and you will still be able to listen in on whatever activities might be going on in the immediate area of the cellphone.

You can also get your cheating husband's message/call archive, turn off his phone, have his phone call a specific number, play a ringtone, etc. You can literally control your cheating husband's phone directly from you own phone.

On the other hand, if you're here and want to know HOW you can stop your cheating spouse from spying on your cellphone, simply remove the battery from the phone. Just turning it off will not work if you are being spied on with a program such as "Cellphone spy 3". As for the other cellphone spy programs (1 and 2), the cheap ones aren't much of a threat, just keep your cellphone with you all the time and don't let anyone touch it (so they can get the simcard) and they can't spy on you. Unless you fall asleep and they get to tamper with your phone, your private details are safe.

Cheating husbands who use different phones or hides cellphones you are unaware existed in the first place are difficult to catch. If you think your cheating husband or wife has a secret cellphone they use to keep things from you, try a different method on to catch your cheating husband. If you haven't read it yet, check out the article previously posted, "How to catch a cheating husband : Keyloggers".

Spying on your cheating husband may get you trouble

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Fri, 06 Feb 2009 06:00:00 +0000

Am I breaking the law when I spy on my cheating husband?

A lot of you who discovered or suspect that you have a cheating husband may end up the one being sued or in trouble for your actions. As I have said before, when trying to catch a cheating husband, make sure you spend a good amount of time researching the tools necessary and the methods on how to catch your cheating husband safely. If you are planning to just buy keyloggers, cellphone spies, hidden cameras, or hiring a private investigator without thorough research, you might just be setting yourself up for failure.

Some of the tools you can use to catch your cheating husband:

1. Keyloggers - simple tools that you attach at the back of your PC, on the keyboard socket to be more specific. For more info on keyloggers, check the links found on this website, or click on this for help on setting up your own keylogger if you already purchased one. Link :How to catch your cheating husband - Keyloggers.

2. Cellphone Spies - One of the best tools in catching a cheating husband, these programs allow you to read text messages that are stored, or even those that were just deleted. The more expensive methods that allow you to spy on a cellphone are those that let you listen in on calls, and turn your husband's cellphone into a "bug" like you see in the movies. By turning it into a "bug" you can call the cellphone of your husband and it will allow you to hear whatever is in the immediate area of the phone. Totally undetectable if you have purchased a good product. For more info on cellphone spies, check the links found on this website.

If you've thought about purchasing, or have purchased any of these already, be warned. These gadgets, if not used properly, may get you sued. Contacting divorce lawyers before actually telling your cheating husband that you know about his affairs is the smartest thing you could do. Especially if you live in the US.

Purchasing these types of gadgets are not illegal at all, but how you use them might cause you trouble in court. In your defense, I know that it takes a lot to go thourgh something like this in a relationship and that your depression, anxiety, anger, or desperation may have caused you to buy these equipments to get the evidence you need to teach your cheating husband a lesson. All these negative feelings you have may have caused you to be ignorant to the laws governing the use of spy gear, surveillance gadgets, and the likes, so please research about that or consult divorce lawyers. In the US, there are laws governing the use of such equipment to intercept or electronically listen in to conversations or activities of individuals without their consent.

Even hiring private investigators may cause you trouble, this is why I highly recommend researching as much details as you can about the private investigator that you will hire. In most states in the US you, your private investigator, or even a friend of yours if you persuaded them to follow your cheating husband, could be held liable. The evidence you find on your husband by your own means should only be for you. An advantage in catching him red handed, because evidence gathered ilegally is useless in a court of law. Remember that when you pick a private investigator to hire, those who use illegal means to aquire evidence can be sued by your cheating husband, and you along with them.

Impersonation
This is another method most victims of cheating do that WILL backfire on you if you get caught. Pretending to be someone else inorder to get information from banks, phone companies, etc will get you in a lot of trouble in court. Your cheating mate could potentially sue you, or win over your case because of illegally aquired evidence.

What can I do legally to catch my cheating husband or wife?

It looks as if the cheaters always have the better of the deal, and it feels like you actually are in a losing battle, but really you don't need anything other than your knowledge of him, and the list found here on signs of a cheating spouse. This isn't enough for some, and I understand the need to validate your suspicions, but be very careful when using cellphone spy programs in catching a cheating spouse.

Cheating Signs

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 03:33:00 +0000

Signs of a cheating spouse

Since I've been getting emails not only from wives, but also husbands, I've decided to take the time and list not only signs of a cheating husband, but signs of a cheating wife as well.

Here are the first few signs of a cheating husband, and signs of a cheating wife that were already put up awhile ago. If you haven't read them, you should take a peek then come back to this page.

First of, for those people that have been emailing me about gay marriage and gay relationships, I am sorry but I can see no differences on what signs you need to watch out for, if you have a cheating husband or cheating wife as a gay couple, then look at the appropriate signs listed here for a cheating husband or cheating wife. If you would like to write something that you think will help same sex marriages, feel free to email(catchacheateradmin at gmail) me and I will put it up as a guest post. Be sure to include your contact details if you would like them to be put up and linked to your website.

Signs of a cheating spouse

Some of these signs are common for most cheating husbands or cheating wives, but some of these (which I will explain) are only things that expert liars do. Some cheating husbands and cheating wives are so good at lying and manipulating their partners that you actually will end up feeling horrible for even thinking that they are cheating, when in fact they really are but have successfully manipulated you into thinking they aren't, and you're insulting them. Hard to understand? Please take a moment to read on, if you're in a position like this while looking for signs of a cheating husband, I know it is hard.

Please understand I will only "tell it like it is" and give every type of cheating husband or wife sign you should watch out for. I'm not talking about your husband or wife directly, please do not be offended because all of the signs here are from personal experience, books, and other people's experiences. Just because you don't see them it doesn't mean you are safe, it's always best to have a backup plan such as a keylogger, or a cellphone spy, especially if you have kids.

Moving on, these are the cheating signs:

1. You notice the condoms you keep are slowly decreasing even if you do not have intercourse more than a few times a month. An obvious sign you may have a cheating husband.

2. Your wife buys contraceptives, even though you have had a vasectomy or are/will be away from home for a long time. Immediate confrontation should happen. This is a sure sign that you have a cheating wife.

3. Your partner is more loving and caring than they usually are. This happens early on, when the affair is only starting out and developing. A cheating husband or wife will do this because of guilt, but you will notice swings in their mood and the overly caring or loving attitude will soon fade once the affair has been going on for longer than expected and it all seems natural to the cheater.

4. Your friends will start talking behind your back. Possibly because of them knowing about it, or hearing rumor about it from friends. Maybe even seeing your husband or wife flirting with other people. A true friend will tell this to you face to face, and you should not be offended if they ever do, you should calmly ask them why they think so, then start your own detective work. Since you're here, you possibly suspect or have observed signs of cheating.

5. Your cheating husband or wife, while being overly nice, starts buying you presents or little gifts almost every other day, after work or "overtime". This goes hand in hand with being overly nice, loving, or caring because of the guilt they experience when starting an affair. Showering you with love, attention or material things helps them feel less guilty for lying, deceiving and betraying you. If this keeps happening, you might have a cheating husband or wife.

6. A cheating husband or wife stops being intimate and spending quality time with their partner. You won't get the usual asking for your opinions, or confiding in you when they have problems. Two things you might get are overly nice attitude, or the exact opposite, cold and distant.

7. Your cheating husband or wife's new routine, mannerisms or behavior towards you or how he or she goes about his day gives you this gut feeling that there is something wrong. When this happens your instincts alert you to possible problems, often you start trying to find something wrong that YOU did, but then you move on to start thinking about cheating. No one knows your partner more than you, so you are right to be suspicious when you get gut feelings like this.

8. Your cheating husband or wife creates new email accounts or starts joining dating websites, chatrooms but does not inform you about them. To find out about this, which would be his or her secret, read my post on how to catch a cheating husband using keyloggers or cellphone spies. It applies to wives as well.

9. The opposite of being overly nice, your cheating husband or wife will start to having fights with you, usually on the day he wants to meet the person he is cheating on you with. Fighting with you is one reason for him to be able to leave the house without giving you a reason, and usually this happens because he wants to meet up.

10. When your partner leaves the house, he or she smells like whatever soap you use at home, or whatever perfume/cologne they use. When your partner returns, he has no scent, or a different perfume/cologne. Sometimes a cheating husband or wife may even come home freshly showered. This is a serious thing and you should confront them about it, especially if they don't go to gyms or shower any place other than home, you may have a cheating husband or wife.

11. Your cheating husband or wife suddenly brings up the idea of your marriage or serious relationship coming to an end when you fight. Whenever you argue about something so little, it usually become a full blown fight and then the topic of splitting up is raised by your partner. They would say such things like "What if I left you?", "If this continues on, I don't think I can take it anymore" or "Do you think we're meant to be together? All we do is fight". Basically all that comes out of your partner is negativity towards your marriage or serious relationship. This usually happens after a lot of time is spent in the affair and the cheating spouse is confident enough that if this marriage or relationship ends, he or she will be safe and have someone after you. A very serious sign, confrontation may be right at this point, depending on your motives.

12. A common thing with cheating husbands or wives is they suddenly want to look better physically. One of the things they do to look more attractive is joining a gym. If you've been together for a long time and never once has the topic of going to a gym, or even taking a simple diet come up, you are right about suspecting something is going on. This is especially true for men who go out alot and work "overtime". Not only is your cheating husband or wife trying to look more attractive, but they also will get a free excuse to leave home. Joining a gym might just be an excuse altogether to leave your house. Good way to know for sure is purchasing a GPS tracker or cellphone spy to ease your suspicions.

13. Your cheating husband or wife may be very tense and have mood swings. A cheating wife or husband may show visible signs of excitement or happiness when about to leave the house, but seems bored and not themselves when at home or spending time with you. On the other hand if the affair has been going on for a long time already, he may try to hide it by faking his feelings when with you to make both of his relationships work, before finally picking one he wants to be in for the rest of his life. The mood swings you see maybe caused by his other relationship. When everything is perfectly normal with your marriage or relationship, then he comes home angry and seemed like he was in a fight (with the other person), he may take it out on you or even blame you for little things and say that is what is causing him to be mad and anxious. Cheating causes anxiety for both parties, especially if he really loves you but can't decide if he wants to be with you and you alone.

14. You find out your cheating husband or wife has a new cellphone. You ask them about it but they just either sound like they are lying, or dismisses it like it was nothing important. Luckily for you there are dozens of cellphone spies that can be found in this website, which will allow you to read their text messages, and some even allow you to listen in on calls. A must for those that are almost certain they have a cheating partner but can't get any evidence.

15. After awhile, you've experienced the being overly nice and gift buying, your cheating wife or husband almost never starts a conversation, unless important. You're living in the same house but quality time is out of the question. You wife never cooks you your favorite meal, or your husband never is sweet or takes you out to movies. Your cheating partner is totally inconsiderate to your needs and ignores you or doesn't give you as much attention when you confide in him. You start to think he has fallen out of love with you, or worse, he has fallen in love with someone else.

16. Your partner's other cellphone is not billed in his name. He or she may have a friend's name listed, and tell you that it is a company phone. Luckily that doesn't matter if you have purchased a cellphone spy, you will be able to spy on your husband or spy on your wife's cellphone as long as it has bluetooth (which most phones today have).

17. Little things like taste in music gives us hints that we might have a cheating wife or husband. Someone who listens to classical music suddenly likes to listen to rock and roll, this is a huge change in genre and might make you wonder where or whom she/he learned this from. This is most surprising for wives that are at home most of the time, with no one to influence their taste in music. This is when a husband or wife should consider installing hidden cameras at home. When your wife or husband spends most of their time at home, it is wise to install hidden cameras if you suspect them of cheating.

18. For women, when a cheating husband has condoms in his wallet or starts buying condoms but knowns that you are on the pill, or godforbid, one of you can not have children, then this is almost a give away that he is cheating.

19. Your cheating husband or wife might be insecure. When a person is insecure, especially true for young women, they are easily persuaded into doing things to gain positive feedback and a sense of "fitting in" or being secure. They may not be having an affair to hurt you or because they are tired of you, they may be having an affair to help themselves feel better because you have been ignoring their emotional needs.

20. Your cheating husband or wife keeps the computer clean, deletes the archives of your internet browser, and changes their password for emails or your computer. May also delete all text messages, calls, etc when he or she never used to do this. They might have another girlfriend or boyfriend that they are trying to keep a secret, spying on them becomes necessary if they do not open up and give you a reason as to why everything is so clean all of a sudden and they are acting different.

21. Sometimes, out of pure guilt, a cheating husband or wife will ask questions like "Have you ever thought of someone other than me as more than a friend?" or "Have you had feelings for someone else since we got together?". Hypothetical questions like these can mean they are having an affair and would like to know how you feel about that, or they are thinking about having an affair. They can also be flirting with other people.

22. Your cheating husband or wife will give their opinions on a friend of yours, sometimes this may even be the friend they are having an affair with, and say NEGATIVE things about this person in an attempt to make you think they are not attracted to them, or even feel disgusted by this type of person. A common thing cheating wives do is to say to their husband's when asked is that they are disgusted by their husband's friend because he is a "pig" or "has no manners". But secretly she could be attracted or maybe even having an affair already with him. For cheating husband's, what they usually say when you ask them is things like "she looks like a Slut!", "I think she looks dumb", or "she's too talkative and bitchy". Watch out for little things like these when you fish for answers, they might try to distract you with comments similar to the above mentioned.

23. Cheating husbands or wives become easily annoyed or offended, even if they used to shrug it off or even comment back, at little harmless comments you give them. This could be because they are feeling guilty, or mad that you asked them to do something or made them go with you to someplace, unknowingly ruining their plants to meet up behind your back. They could also be going through conflict with their other relationships and are getting very stressed trying to juggle things around.

24. Your cheating husband or wife stops caring about your children, you and what used to be his or her daily family routine. He or she may stop playing with the kids, asking you for sex, or go out on dates with you. They may even get irritated when your children ask for some time. There is little to none quality time with you and your kids. This is sometimes the worst sign, especially if it is your kid that notices he is different. Most partners don't want to even think about their significant other having an affair, so they become delusional/naive.

25. Your partner, especially if a woman, will suddenly buy new underwear. Your cheating wife suddenly buys sexy lingere, when she never used to or has never talked about it with you, she might be having an affair. Especially if you found it by accident and she hasn't even told you about it. For the husband, he may or may not buy new underwear, but he could do other things like suddenly starts shaving, or gets a new haircut.

26. Locking doors, closing doors, and distancing themselves from you when at home. In long term relationships couples usually do not hide behind doors while shaving, taking a bath or even peeing, but all of a sudden you can't see your wife's or husband's body anymore, in or out of bed. This happens mostly in the bathroom, when they will secretly check if their other lover has left any marks that you might catch. So they distance themself from you by locking doors to check, and if they do spot something out of the ordinary they may suddenly want to go straight to bed. Leaving hickeys on a husband or wife could be a little game your cheating husband or wife is playing with their new lover, and it could be another way that excites both of them.

27. Your cheating husband or wife stops giving you complements and you feel like your are unattrative anymore. Even when you do try, you usually get nothing. Even the things he or she used to love about you and find attrative are now just being ignored. This may not mean you have a cheating wife or husband, but it is still here in the signs of cheating because it could lead to him flirting with someone else he or she finds attractive. And flirting usually leads to cheating. Even online affairs/emotional affairs lead to real life cheating, sex and everything.

28. "I love you" becomes routine, no feeling, and he doesn't even say it sometimes if you don't say it first. This is the most painful thing to anyone, when your lover stops saying he or she loves you. If there is no more love between the two of you, divorce might happen. Which is why I strongly recommend not to confront a cheating husband or wife before gathering enough evidence for you to win full custody of your children or other assets. The most important is the children, who you would like to raise yourself since I'm sure you wouldn't want them to grow up with a lying, cheating person.

29. Doing something nice for your cheating husband or wife makes him or her emotional, or you notice him or her being depressed or seem like they are thinking of alot of things. Doing nice things for your cheating husband or wife, be it cooking his favorite meal, or buying her flowers unexpectedly, will make them so full of guilt that it will hurt. Tell them things like "I'm the luckiest person to have found you" will stick in their minds for a long time, and they may even confess and beg for forgiveness if they truly love you.

30. You cheating husband or wife does not wear their wedding ring. The things that were usually okay to leave in the car, are now removed whenever he has to use it. (kid's toys, child safety seat, rattles, kid's DVDs etc) Maybe even buying a totally new car just for him/her to use is not unheard of.

31. Your cheating husband or wife would rather be among friends and work "overtime" than spend quality time at home with you and the kids. When you ask for a phone number, he gives excuses like "We won't stay there for long" or "Jack got a new place, he doesn't have a phone yet" or when you call his cellphone, it's almost always turned off or he rushes talking to you because he is at "work".

32. Your cheating husband or wife does not care about the future of your marriage or relationship. He makes little to no effort to move forward in your relationship. This is common when in new relationships when the other person finds someone else they would like to be with. In marriages, this could possibly mean divorce, especially if it is a new marriage where the husband or wife doesn't seem serious.

33. A cheating wife or husband would rather do something else like read a magazine, book, website than actually be intimate with you in bed or do anything with you other than the necessary things they have to do. Cheating wives also refuse to have sex because she is more interested in her new lover. She may even lie and say she has her period, so it would be wise for you to take note of her period, women that have irregular periods will be harder to track, but you will be able to tell if you know where she keeps her feminine products. A very easy way for you to know if she is lying.

34. This is more of a tip for women. When your cheating husband suddenly WANTS to do the laundry, something is wrong. When was the last time your husband ever wanted to do the laundry? Yes, never. At least for me. This could mean he is trying to hide something, or he wants to make sure there are no lipstick marks or anything you can find on his clothes.

35. Your cheating husband or wife tries to divert your attention to the problems of other people, such as your relatives, neighbors, his or her coworkers, friends, anyone you know, to keep the topic off him or herself to cover up his secret affairs and unanswered questions.

36. Your cheating spouse has some "injuries" on their back, neck, thighs, etc. When you ask what happened, your cheating spouse will be unable to answer, shrug it off, or give some absurd excuse like being caught on wire or something like that. But if you check their clothes, you see nothing that would lead you to believe they got caught on wire or whatever excuse they give you.

37. Like the sudden new taste in music, your cheating spouse might also get new lingo or starts talking in a different manner than he or she used to. Especially if they have been having an affair for quite some time now, mannerisms of couples can't be helped, they rub off on each other.

38. A cheating spouse will be emotionally unavailable to you and when you try to confide in him or her, he or she does not open up like they used to, instead they get defensive and secretive, like they are keeping something from you and want their privacy.

39. When your spouse actually wants to have sex with you, it's usually because they want to try something different. Perhaps a different sexual position you have never tried, or maybe even fantasizing about something you have never done. Sometimes, they may even openly tell you that they want to fantasize about cheating. They tell you it's nothing, just something different, but they would probably be thinking of their other lover and it might excite them that they are telling you directly while having intercourse. It is some type of psychological disorder that make people want to do this.

40. The opposite of not wanting to have sex with you. When a cheating spouse cannot be with their other lover, maybe because the other person has to leave for awhile, they may actually "practice" some of the things they do with you. If you notice him or her not even calling out their name, if they use to do this, you may have a cheating spouse. Especially if they seem like they are someone else when you start making love.

41. All of his/her "overtime" does not show up on your spouse's paycheck. Confrontation makes them angry and actually turns the tables and asks you why you keep thinking of cheating, maybe you're the one having an affair.

42. You asked around and found out from his or her office that he took a sick day, more than once, in the past few months. If your spouse doesn't have an answer for this, it's most likely infidelity you have on your hands.

43. Your spouse accidentally says a name while sleeping, and it has happened on several occasions. After confronting them, they tell you that you are crazy or imagining things, then shrug it off.

44. Sometimes relatives or other close friends are the first to notice something is wrong. They might be able to tell before you that you might have a cheating spouse because you are in denial or they notice that your relationship with your husband or wife has changed withing the last few months.

45. A cheating spouse, especially those that are having an online or emotional affair, will spend hours on end chatting or emailing on the computer. They will usually say they are working, and close the laptop or computer when you come to see what exactly they are working on.

46. Sneaking out of the house. Usually happens at night when you are a sleep. Installing hidden camers will help pick out these late night meetings, or help assure you that you know what is happening when you are out of the house.

47. Your cheating spouse is offended that you check up on him, and asks you why you need to know every single detail about his or her day, even if you used to do this and he or she actually welcomed your concern for how their day went.

48. A cheating husband or wife will usually go out for groceries or shopping and come home hours later than he or she normally would. This becomes easy to track when you are in a long time relationship or marriage because you would know how long the other takes to do things like this, and can easily tell if something is out of the ordinary. If you ask what took him or her so long, they give out the same excuses everytime. Like traffic, or a long line in the mall.

49. You get more "wrong numbers" or people that hang up on you at home than you used to. If you get them more than once a month, and this usually never happens, your spouse may be cheating on you.

50. You find sexy lingere or other intimate objects at home even if you know you did not buy them, and your spouse gives you an unlikely excuse such as "It's a surprise for you" or "I wanted to try something different". If this is seen alone with other signs, you may have a cheating spouse.

51. Lipstick on clothing, perfume which neither of you own, or after shave on your wife are some things that are easily a give away that you have a cheating spouse.

52. You notice your partner makes significantly less money, or that your spouse doesn't even show you how much money he has in the bank or credit card bills. Usually, for men, they buy their mistresses something everytime they meet up, or pay for hotel rooms or expensive dinners.

53. Your spouse takes vacations or work outings more often. Your wife may say she is visiting her mother, but when you check up, they have no idea where she is.

54. Your wife or husband that is cheating may start eating less at home, or not at all because he/she has been eating out with with the new lover she is having an affair with.

55. A cheating spouse will be less comfy and secretive around you, worried that you might see something out of the ordinary. Will choose to sleep, shower, and do other things you usally do together, alone.

56. Change of tone when speaking on the phone. It may mean your spouse is talking with the person they are cheating with.

57. Your partner hides or puts under the pillow their cellphone when they go to sleep. Secrecy is always a cause for concern, especially if there is a chance you might be dealing with infidelity / adultery.

58. You might think you heard your cheating spouse having phone sex, but are unsure if it was real, or you are being overly paranoid. This happens all the time when cheating is involved. The cheaters get this twisted for of excitement that they are cheating on you while you are at home, but unaware. They may use their other cellphone to avoid you finding out the number, luckily we have cellphone spies to help us catch a cheating husband or wife.

59. Sleeping patern is different even if he or she wasn't out of town or up all night working at home (where you can see him or her). This could be cause by their living a double life. Having a secret life will cause stress, anxiety and lack of sleep. Your spouse may lash out on you and blame you for not getting enough rest because you keep on "nagging" him or her, when all you want is some quality time.

60. Trust your instincts. If you think your spouse is cheating on you, there is a high chance that they are. The most vital sign that your husband or wife is cheating is you being here. You wouldn't be here if you didn't think he or she was cheating on you.

I hope these signs help you find out if you have a cheating husband or a cheating wife. If you would like to contribute anything, please get my contact details from the contact page. For help on how to catch a cheating spouse, see the sidebar for links to my article with details on how to catch a cheating husband using a keylogger and cellphone spies. (applies to both sexes).

If you're still living in denial, or refuse to accept the fact that you MAY have a cheating husband or a cheating wife, I'd like to leave you with a quote taken from a very reliable source, Oprah.

"In a new study conducted by marriage counselor M. Gary Neuman, it's estimated that one in 2.7 men will cheat—and most of their wives will never know about it. "

This quote was taken from an article in Oprah's website "Why Men Cheat", it's a very good read, enjoy and good luck with your relationship.

How to catch a cheating husband

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Sat, 24 Jan 2009 10:27:00 +0000

Husband is cheating but shows no signs

Do you have a feeling that your husband is cheating on you? You've read signs of a cheating husband but he shows little to none of them. But you still have a feeling that your husband is cheating on you, read on and hopefully this will help you catch a cheating husband.

Sometimes it is very difficult to tell whether a husband is cheating on you. There are some husbands or boyfriends that are very good liars, they may actually become more loving and caring when they are cheating/having an affair to help cover up the fact they ARE cheating. They make sure you have no doubt on whether or not they are faithful.

Some signs that can help clue you in on whether or not your husband is cheating on you:

1. Suddenly your husband is more loving or caring than he usually is. This happens every time he has to go out, or will tell you that he is going out, and when your husband gets back home. When you ask about the details, you husband is usually always giving you vague details.

2. You catch your husband off guard. You call his workplace to check if he is doing overtime, but he isn't. You call his friend's place to check if they are hanging out, but his friend has no idea where hs is. You try calling his cellphone but it is turned off. Then you tell him about it when he gets home, he makes something up and gets testy about it and ask you if you're trying to call him a cheater. A cheating husband will often try to justify his actions by being defensive or even aggressive when he finds out you're getting to the part where you'll ask him if he is cheating.

3. He actually jokes about cheating. My longtime boyfriend, and now ex husband, used to do this when he was cheating on me. I would ask him where he was going, he would say "I have to go see my hot little mistress now..hahaha just kidding honey, I'm going to hang out with the guys, beers, sports, the usual." I don't know what kind of sick person does this, but it does happen. I think this is a psychological thing that they actually enjoy it more if they lie to your face before they cheat on you. I actually believed him during the early stage, but then it started happening all too often. If it wasn't the "guys" it was work, which always happened after dinner. I caught my husband cheating by using cellphone spy tools. (check around this website for some spy tools) Some cellphone spies will allow you to listen in on calls and read text messages. Check them out, they will be worth your time.

4. The really good liars are the cheating husbands that actually get mad at you and pick fights. They will pick fights right before they leave, so he would have a reason to turn off his cellphone or ignore you and not tell you where he is going. If you husband is picking fights with you when you ask him where he is going, or where he has been, you shoul be suspicious that your husband is hiding something.

If you haven't already done so, check out some of the ways found on this website on how to catch a cheating husband. Cellphone spies are cheap and effective, another substitute for private investigators.

Cheating Husband is having an emotional affair

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Wed, 21 Jan 2009 10:03:00 +0000

Is your husband having an emotional affair?

What is an emotional affair?

A relationship that usually starts from friendship that develops into something more that your husband actually exerts more effort and time into that "friendship" than he does with his normal friends is called an emotional affair.

Emotional affairs usually start from friendship, but it isn't unheard of that it starts because one of them initiated it. A cheating husband could meet someone online, from dating sites that you are unaware of, or more commonly in chat rooms. His intentions may not be bad or to find someone to cheat on you with, but you have to understand that their relationship may just develop into something more than friendship, especially if they are mutually attracted to each other.

When your husband invests his time outside your relationship and into his new relationship with this other girl, they may bond emotionally with each other. They may start keeping secrets from you, your husband may start flirting with her besides confiding in her. Or it may be the other way around and she may flirt or even seduce your husband. If their friendship begins developing and they both gain stronger emotional bonds with each other, your own relationship with your husband or boyfriend may weaken, you might experience lack of intimacy in your marriage.

Some may think emotional affairs are nothing harmful to a relationship, and is not considered cheating, but I tend to disagree. Emotional affairs are like smoking weed. Some people argue that it is harmless, but the real harm in smoking weed is it may lead some people into trying out some other types of drugs. It is a gateway drug, just like an emotional affair may lead into something worse, like a husband cheating on you in real life. It is important if you suspect your husband is having an emotional affair is you confront him about it or spy on his computer before you confront him, because about half of all emotional affairs turn into real life adultery, cheating, or may even lead to divorce. There are several ways to spy on his cellphone, too (look around this blog to see ways to spy on his cellphone).

Like most people, I find the hardest and most painful part is when you first find out that you are being deceived and betrayed by someone you love and trust. For me it felt like a whale got dropped on me when I first read one of his conversations with another girl through my keylogger. It caused me lots of pain and anxiety and I could not concentrate on my life, work, or friends.

An emotional affair does not only happen with your husband's friends at work, or neighbors, it is also very possible that he has an emotional affair with an online friend (who he may then meet in real life). Be worried if your husband suddenly stops confiding and getting emotional support from you. Your husband might be having an emotional affair, you should do your best to find out while their relationship isn't strong enough to warrant a meet up in real life.

Once they get bonded and their relationship has developed past the friend level, your husband is now having an emotional affair. When in an emotional affair, your husband will feel comfortable in sharing his secrets with the other girl, some secrets even you may not know about. Your husband or bf might feel close enough to the other woman, and her to him, that they both will eventually experience increasing sexual tension.

If you know for a fact that your husband or boyfriend does not openly share his feeling, except to you, and recently he has stopped or you found out he is sharing it with someone else, you should be worried that he is having an emotional affair. Most cheating husbands don't even know they are cheating because they view emotional affairs as nothing, because there was no physical contact. But most women, myself included, feel differently. It hurts just as much as having cheated on me physically, some cases may hurt more especially if he tells her something he doesn't want to tell me. I'm all for keeping no secrets between couples, and by doing this to me I feel betrayed and deceived.

One of the major factors of a normal friendship developing into an emotional affair is when your husband or boyfriend starts sharing intimate details of his life that goes beyond what he tells anyone else but you.

These are some signs you should look out for if you suspect your husband of having an emotional affair.

Signs of an emotional affair:

Your husband no longer confides in you. And vice versa, you get no emotional support form your husband. This may mean that you have a cheating husband.
He may keep secrets from you and you start noticing he suddenly puts down the phone or someone calls and when you answer it hangs up.
A common friend (girl usually) seems to know more and understand him better than yourself.
Your husband no longer is interested in being intimate, he stopped being sweet, and feels like a completely different person.
The amount of time your husband spends with you seems a lot less compared to the time he spends with his friend. Or if your husband didn't tell you about her, he spends most of his time at the office or away from home.
When you are out with him, he often flirts with a common friend, or his friend from the office. Sometimes it might not even seem like your husband notices that he is flirting because he is so comfortable with the person.
You notice your husband or boyfriend acting like he used to act when you first started dating, he seems like he is attracted to her. If you are unsure whether he is attracted or not, just watch if your husband is flirting.
He may ask you or other mutual friends about the girl he is having an emotional affair with, when is she free, what's her schedule like, etc. Or if they are co-workers, he may spend more time with her than anyone else.
You discover things about them on your own. He is hiding dates, meet ups, or even work related things. Your husband doesn't want you to know they're working together.
When you ask something about their relationship, your husband or boyfriend gets defensive and may even act insulted.
Your husband actually gets jealous when the other girl goes on dates, or spends time with other guys.

Some of these are the same as "Signs of a cheating husband"

How do you prevent emotional affairs from happening?

Think of how it started first of all. Your husband may be flirting with other women because he does not get satisfied in bed, or you never are intimate with each other anymore. The best thing you can do about flirting husbands is to confront them right away while it's early on. Don't wait for an affair to happen. Tell your husband that you don't appreciate it that he is flirting with other women, ask him how he would feel if you started flirting with other men.

Confrontation is always best if done as soon as possible. Come to an understanding that you don't want him to flirt with other women, and ask him what you can do to get rid of the urges. Sometimes it is as easy as that, and your husband will apologize and tell you they did not know what they were doing was wrong or makes you feel bad. Sometimes it will be more difficult because they will try to reason it out that nothing sexual is happening. Even if nothing sexual is happening, tell him it hurts you to see him, you husband, flirting with some girl.

It is up to you as a couple to come to an understanding, if needed you should see a marriage councilor. The point you must get across clearly is that for your relationship to continue to work properly none of this should continue.

To prevent emotional affairs you must always keep no secrets from each other. Your husband should feel like he can tell you anything, no matter how bad it is. Sometimes emotional affairs begin when your husband is simply looking for someone to vent out his frustrations on, or he is feeling like no one, including you, is listening to him.

Both of you should let each other know what the boundaries are. If you don't want him to be touchy with a girl, tell him that. If you don't like him to hang out with a girl when they are alone, tell him. Same goes for you, it should be equal or it won't ever work. When one of you gets fed up, infidelity starts looking more like an escape to something better rather than something that will hurt the person you love.

Do things as a couple and keep no secrets from each other. That is the best thing you can do to strengthen you relationship and avoid cheating, or emotional/online affairs.

Some of the methods here, such as keyloggers, can help you determine if your husband is having an emotional affair. Especially if it is done through a computer, online. Read up on the way to spy on a cellphone found here in this site for more info.

Click this to see methods on how to catch a cheating husband.

Good luck and I hope you work everything out before an emotional affair develops.

How to catch a cheating husband part 2

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Fri, 09 Jan 2009 07:09:00 +0000

Catch a cheating husband - Keyloggers / spy tools

My previous post on how to catch a cheating husband was a basic guide on how to hire a private investigator. This is a more active method, which will involve using keyloggers.

Most of you, myself included, would rather do all the spying and evidence collecting themselves for various reasons. Mine would be that I was a bit ashamed of sharing such private details about my cheating husband, even with a professional private investigator, I would prefer to catch my cheating husband on my own. I would rather gather everything myself and then hire an attorney. This is another method on how to catch a cheating husband.

In this method we will use keyloggers, and other various programs. This will be a work in progress, so if you have any programs that you would like to share and think it will help out someone that is currently doubtful of their husband's loyalty, please contact me at my email (catchacheateradmin @ gmail dot com). If you haven't already read the "How to catch a cheating husband - private investigator" page, I recommend you do, if you don't want to take part on gathering evidence yourself and would prefer a different method to catch your cheating husband.

Here is one method that I have mentioned in several posts, such as "Signs of a cheating husband" this is the one I used first, even before spying on cellphones. I like this method because it is easy, no software or installations are needed. etc.

Tools to help catch a cheating husband

Keyloggers
First gadget we have to help catch a cheating husband, which requires absolutely no computer know-how, is a keylogger. For those of you who are as technically illiterate as I am, this is THE perfect tool to help you spy on and catch a cheating husband.

Basically it is a small piece of hardware that you attach to your computer, and it records all the keystrokes on its memory. It is undetectable. You just have to make sure that you attach the keylogger when no one is around the house.

The bigger the memory you buy, the more it will store, allowing you to leave it in for weeks on end. This will only work for desktop computers, as you need to attach this to where the keyboard attaches, and then attach the keyboard to your keylogger which will then spy on your cheating husband's internet activity. You will be able to see not only where he goes, but you will also get your cheating husband's passwords to all his websites, messengers, (secret) emails, etc. An essential when wanting to catch a cheating husband.

This is what you want if your husband you currently suspect is cheating and using your home computer.

Benefit of having this hardware keylogger is that it is undetectable even if you have virus scanners. To find it, your cheating husband would have to look at the back of the computer, and then check the keyboard socket. Now, when has he, or anyone else in the house, ever done that?

This has worked for me, and even after divorcing my husband, it has proven to be useful in other things such as monitoring my kids' internet activities. They KNOW I know what they are doing, but they don't understand how their technically inept mom does it (cause they are lazy and would never clean their computers, which has the keylogger attached behind :) ). Every week or so, when I come to check on their rooms, I check the keylogger out and see their activities online.

Here is the Hardware Keylogger (USB version, if you don't know what USB means, read on) that I used which has a whopping 1 gigabyte storage, I also got it from the same site I buy books, Amazon, which is a well known site so you're sure that you won't get scammed either. An essential when it comes to gathering evidence while trying to catch a cheating husband online.

This type of keylogger is best used when trying to catch a cheating husband because of it's size and it's stealth. It's an inch and a half long, placed behind your computer AND can store 1 GIGABYTE (this is huge in case you did not know) worth of keystrokes. Which is plenty to get your cheating husband's password, conversations, and anything else he hides from you. You can read your cheating husband's plans even before he goes through with them AND you will have his passwords, that's the best part. Just avoid confronting the other girl before sufficient evidence is acquired or you are ready to sue your cheating husband because she will most probably tell your husband about it. You won't need to talk to her, you'll be able to see all their conversations through keylogger. Without them suspecting anything. A valuable tool in teaching your cheating husband a lesson he will never forget.

There is also a smaller sized cheaper keylogger, this will work just the same way as the 1 gigabyte one with the only difference being you will need to check up on it everyday or so and clear memory. Downside is you might go over the limit of the keylogger, and miss some of the details your cheating husband is hiding. Anyway, the price goes down whenever the memory size goes down. The available sizes other than the 1 gigabyte one that I would recommend is the 4MB one (USB).

Be sure to pick the right one depending on what computer you have. I researched and it turns out my new PC (which my gamer son built for me) has a USB socket for the keyboard, so I got the 1 gigabyte one for this machine. For older PCs you will need a ps/2 socket. Don't buy the 2 gigabyte one, as that is a bit of an overkill. My ex cheating husband would fill up a 1 gigabyte one in about a week, which was more time than I could wait. I check on the keylogger every week, and 1 gig will definitely be perfect for that. 4MB one is good for a day or two at MAX. Also depends on how often your cheating husban uses the computer, it's up to you to decide.

Here are some quick links so you don't need to have trouble searching the site:

USB sockets:

1 gig keylogger USB socket - Click here to view image of how it should look like.

4MB keylogger USB Socket

Older keyboards, PS/2:

2MB keylogger PS/2 socket - Click here to view image of how it should look like.

1 gig keylogger

Again if you are unsure of what these do, they record EVERY keystroke made on your keyboard, and saves it on it's memory for you to view later on. Every single detail your cheating husband tries to hide from you will be exposed. This is a sure fire way of catching a cheating husband. Anything your cheating husband tries to keep secret from you on that computer will fail. You will have all the evidence you need. This will either help you confirm your beliefs that your husband is cheating on you, or will help you realize if you are just being paranoid for no reason at all. In any case, you can also use it later on for other things such as to protect your kids by monitoring their internet activities, leaving someone in charge of your house while the computer is accessible, etc.

Please READ THIS before purchasing any of those keyloggers.

This hardware keylogger is not compatible with laptops. Your only choice for a laptop keylogger is software. These do however work for any type of operating system (Windows, linux, etc), and has no need for software installations.

Do you know what a USB or PS/2 socket is? I did not because as I said I am technically challenged, and had to research for a few hours before I understood. All you actually need to do, without all the computer talk, is turn your computer around and look at what the keyboard plugs into.

If it is round like this, you have a PS/2 socket.

If it is rectangular, you have a USB socket.

All that fancy names and computer talk like ps/2 socket or USB aside, all you really have to do is turn your computer around and look for either a circle or a square socket. Just remember to check which one you need before buying, I don't want you to be wasting your money or spending hours of research. But you probably are not as technically inept as I am. :)

To recap, the benefits of this keylogger are :
No installation needed. (other than plugging in the back of the computer)
Can be used to find out every and all keystrokes done on the computer.
Can be used to get husband's secret accounts that you don't know about.
Can be used to get passwords for those accounts.
Can be used to get your husband's password on protected files or computer accounts.
Basically anything typed, you will see.

This will be updated as much as I can to help you find more ways and gadgets you can use to catch a cheating husband.

I hope this has helped you, and please feel free to email me if you need any help.
This will be updated every time I find more ways on how to catch a cheating husband.

Update : How to catch a cheating husband using cellphone spies

Cheating stories - cheating husband

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Thu, 08 Jan 2009 10:56:00 +0000

Confession of a cheating husband

This was very unexpected and I did not know how to respond. So its post date is a bit delayed. A cheating husband who actually emailed me.

Very unexpected.

from Andrew ***** <*****@yahoo.com>
reply-to *****@yahoo.com
to catchacheateradmin at g mail dotcom
date Thu, Jan 5, 2009 at 9:52 PM
subject My confession
mailed-by yahoo.com
signed-by yahoo.com

I'm a compulsive liar.

I don't know what to do anymore. I'm too far in to just openly confess to my wife that I have been cheating on her. I'm afraid it is too late to come clean and she will leave me. We don't have kids yet. I still love my wife. We've been married for 3 years. I wasn't always like this. The thought of another woman just drives me crazy now. I don't know when it started, it just is like this right now, and has been for the past year or so. I finally gave in to my urges. My wife is still very attractive, she gets hit on by guys younger than her sometimes. I don't know why. I started cheating on her by first joining adult websites and started flirting with other single women, sometimes I pretended to be single, sometimes I openly admitted I was married. I found it more of a turn on when I openly admitted my wife was not home and I have been married for 3 years. The affair has been going on for 2 months, we have had intercourse several times. It's getting worse as the girl I met the girl from *******.com seems to have the same fetish/problem I have, she wants me to take her to our house and have intercourse in our bed. We have only been to motels together.

I am almost certain that my wife knows about this or suspects something is wrong as I have been cold for the past couple of months, I don't know what to do. I tried different things in the bedroom and spending more time with her, but I just don't feel anything for her anymore. I'm ashamed to admit that I even read your signs to find out if your husband is cheating just so I could do the opposite and AVOID her finding out. I just wanted to share this with you even if you classify people like me as "cheating bastards", any advice you can give me I will try to put in action. Found you through the chat cheaters forum and your posts made me feel terribly guilty, as if I wasn't already.

Andrew

It's simple, STOP cheating on your wife, tell her openly if you want to continue with your relationship. If you don't want to continue your relationship, tell her that too. Be civil about it and don't wait for her to catch you cheating.

Cheating husbands, no matter why or how they started cheating, need to tell their wives. Judging from your email, you don't want to continue your relationship with her anymore. Stop wasting her time and tell her that you're cheating on her. At least let her get on with her life and find a relationship that she can be happy in.

I'm not sure if this email is to provoke me or annoy me but I decided to post it anyway. Sorry if you are being sincere but I just hate cheating husbands.

If you love your wife, and you want to stop being a cheating husband, tell her openly and ask her to forgive you. See a marriage councilor. You may have some sort of fetish that makes you lose control and cheat on your wife.

Because of this, I'm actually going to research on marriage councilors, so whether or not this email was just to annoy me, it also gave me some ideas.

Go tell her everything. Right now. Skip work tomorrow if you have to. Go tell your wife everything right now before she actually starts thinking of ways to catch a cheating husband. If she loves you, she will always forgive you.

I don't consider EVERY husband that cheats a cheating bastard. Some cheating husbands actually want to change, and cheat because of some sort of psychological disorder they have.

Read Cheating Husband - Hope to cope so you know what to expect once you tell your wife that you WERE a cheating husband.

Good luck and TELL YOUR WIFE,
-Kris

How to catch a cheating husband part 1

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Wed, 07 Jan 2009 13:13:00 +0000

Guide on how to hire a private investigator

You've been married for a fair amount of time, you notice that your husband is now less involved, more distant, is starting to keep secrets. You have seen some of the signs of a cheating husband. You're unsure on what to do but you really want to catch your cheating husband. If you haven't tried keyloggers or spy programs, that is also a viable alternative to hiring a private investigator to do your spying for you.

Hiring a private investigator to catch a cheating husband for you is the right thing to do if you're busy with your own work, or taking care of your kids. You could most certainly do it all by yourself, using keyloggers and spy programs. It all really depends on you, and if you are comfortable with strangers handling such delicate matters. The benefit of hiring yourself a private investigator is you will get as much evidence as possible, video, audio, and anything from your computer(this you can do by yourself using keyloggers). Don't forget that when you catch a cheating husband, the topic of divorce comes up more often than not. I don't mean to sound negative but.. divorce often involves child custody, and division of assets. I'm sure you would not want your children ending up with someone that lied, betrayed, and cheated on you. Remember this when thinking about hiring a private investigator to catch your cheating husband. If you are content with what your key loggers and spy programs have found and think a private investigator is unnecessary, then you can skip on and read other parts of this site, specifically "how to catch a cheating husband using keyloggers". If you do however want to hire a private investigator to catch your cheating husband for you, read on, and I hope I can help you with my advice.

When hiring a private investigator to carch your cheatin husband, you'll obviously want someone proven. A private investigator with years of experience. You wouldn't want to hire someone that will just get caught and eventually alert your husband to what is happening (you collecting evidence for divorce, if that is your plan). If until now you do not know if your husband cheated, a private investigator will be able to confirm that for you, or dismiss the idea of infidelity by confirming every one of your husband's excuses (working late, going out with friends, joined a gym, etc)

If you have enough evidence to prove in a court of law that you have a cheating husband, then you would have the upper hand in gaining full custody of the children, your house, your possessions, alimony, etc. The custody over the children alone is enough reason for you to consider having a private investigator cover everything you haven't. Like videos of him from when he leaves the house up until he goes home. A mountain of evidence can be found from those, see an example of a group of private investigators hired to follow a suspected cheating husband. Check out this post and find out what happened to Sharon Bolton, a wife who suspected that her husband was cheating on her. Private investigators tracked down her husband, and found that he was cheating on her with the neighbor. Watch the video of a cheating husband caught found in this website.

How to hire a private investigator to catch your cheating husband

Finding a private investigator where you live can easily be done by looking them up on the yellow pages or by googling "Private investigator (insert your location here)". Once you have found a website, you should now google "websitename reviews" or something similar for feedback.

You wouldn't want to waste your time and money on a private investigator that has no experience, or worse, has a lot of unresolved cases or complaints from previous employers. You want this whole thing to go smoothly, and you don't want your husband finding out that he is being tailed.

Let's say I'm from Florida and I have decided that I need a private investigator to catch a cheating husband, I will now google "Private investigator florida".

Google now gives me a list of pages, with the top being most relevant and accurate. In this example, when you google "private investigator florida", the top of the search results page is fali.com

Now that you know there are private investigators at your area, you should now review their site by searching for terms like "fali.com review" or "fali.com cases" "fali.com scam". You want to find as much information on them as possible, good or bad. Here is an example of what I found from searching "fali.com review" :

Web safety ratings

Another thing to help you decide if it is a legit site or not is by getting their whois page. You can do this searching "fali.com whois", which brings us to the domain tools whois page. Click here to see the details.

You will see the contact details, the registrant, the administrative contact, etc. A fake site will have all this hidden, and the date the site was created will most likely be not more than a few months, or weeks even. In this case, fali.com looks as legit as can be, with a beginning date of 1998.

Another way, although not always available for all businesses, is to seach bbb.org. In this example, fali.com, is not registered with bbb.org. Not that big of a deal, since fali.com has been around for more than a decade. No spam/scam sites last more than a few months, so I can be sure that fali.com can be trusted and it is safe to hire a private investigator from them to help me catch my cheating husband (or soon to be proven cheating husband).

So once you are done reading their whole site, looking for reviews, checking their reputation, decide now whether or not to go ahead and hire a private investigator. If you have enough spare cash, I would definitely recommend this to anyone who is about to or is thinking about getting a divorce.

You might also find it easier to ask people who have gone through all of this before to help you with details on where/who they hired to catch their cheating husband. If you don't know anyone who can help you, try the above method in hiring someone to help you gather evidence and catch you cheating husband.

What you are looking for is someone who is PROFESSIONAL. Not just some guy who bought a video cam and is willing to tail and stalk your cheating husband. You want a professional licensed private investigator, not a vigilante type person who wants to stalk your cheating husband for you. This individual should provide you with a guarantee of secrecy, and daily reports of everything that he has found/heard/recorded. You should discuss how far you would like things to go, and you should ultimately have full control on what will happen.

If you yourself have gathered enough evidence, already caught your cheating husband, and can't find any more evidence/a good private investigator, it would do you good to seek advice from an attorney, or ask them for recommendations on private investigators.

The reason why I recommend you to NOT confront your cheating husband before you have enough evidence is because you might not even have the chance of gathering evidence once you let your cheating husband know that you know what is going on. Having a good long civilized talk with your cheating husband might reduce your chances of getting evidence for several reasons. He might deny it all in court, and if you have no evidence, you risk losing custody over the children. He might turn it around, and blame you. Anything can change, so why not get the upper hand? Consider everything you wouldn't normally, cause once a cheating husband gets caught, he becomes a different person. If he has a history of being violent, try not to confront him alone. Think of a dog that is cornered, he will do anything to protect himself.

Good luck,
Kris

Update: You might also be interested in my post on how to catch a cheating husband using keyloggers.

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Cheating Husband - How to cope

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Fri, 02 Jan 2009 06:37:00 +0000

How do I deal with infidelity.

You recently found out or have doubts that your husband cheated or is cheating on you. You feel like a piano was dropped on your head the moment you realize your marriage or relationship is about to end or that you are being deceived. You try to convince yourself that this isn't happening, that you're being paranoid, "he would never do this to me," I must be imagining things, etc. Don't blame yourself, it's not your fault. If you are unsure whether or not you have a cheating husband, please read signs of a cheating husband first.

Infidelity is never easy to deal with, this will take a long time for you to recover from, and this will be a long but fruitful journey to self improvement. You WILL come out a better person, I speak from experience, and you WILL find someone ten times better than your previous cheating husband (if you ever do decide that he is not worth forgiving and sharing your life with). You'll respect yourself more, gain more confidence, and get back your dignity.

"If you marry a man who cheats on his wife, you'll be married to a man who cheats on his wife." -Ann Landers

Everytime you think of your cheating husband having an affair, and lying to you, it makes you sick and angry. But you still love him. You want him to change, you forgive him and hope to save the relationship. If you truly believe that your cheating husband can change, then that is great, I will share everything I know on how to deal with infidelity, how to forgive your unfaithful husband, and attempt to successfully save your relationship. If however you are sure you want to end the relationship, read "what to do when my husband cheats on me" page found in this website.

If you're only trying to save your relationship for the kids' sake, this will be more difficult for you, but you WILL gradually heal and come out a better person. Here is some information on how to cope with a cheating husband:

Let it all out and accept it
Even if you're the type of person who does not want to cry, you should. Crying is healthy, and will help ease your pain and anxiety. You can do this alone, or infront of your cheating husband when you confront him about his secret affair. It would depend on what decision you have arrived at, do you want to end the relationship or do you want to save the relationship. I wouldn't cry infront of my husband if I planned to divorce him, this would give him reason to believe he still has a hold on me and would try to manipulate the situation to favor him. You may think your husband is not capable of manipulating your emotions to get what he wants, you may think that is too much for him and he would never prey on your emotions. But you also thought he would never ever cheat on you, but your husband cheated. I chose to leave my cheating husband, I knew he could never change. It's different for everyone, but this is how it worked out for me and my ex cheating husband.

Your husband may have been lying and cheating on you with several other women for longer than you thought, that is why I suggest to read signs of a cheating husband, and how to catch a cheating husband, so you can gather enough evidence before you take any legal action, if you choose to do so. I know this is hard to read, especially for those that want to save the relationship, but I am just being real and stating the facts.

With that aside, if you do choose to save your relationship, then open up and share every single thing that has been plaguing you. Every tiny detail. Tell him, don't ask, that you're both going to skip work the next day so you can talk it out. Cheating husbands will usually agree if they want to work things out, and they usually won't if they plan on ending the relationship. Ask your husband why he cheated on you, what does he want to happen from this point on, what did you ever do to cause him to cheat and does he still love you. Tell him how he made you feel, and what YOU want to happen from this point on. Come to an understanding on how you will proceed with your relationship, and try stick to it. Agree that no secrets should ever be kept between you two. It's going to take a lot of time, but getting it all out is the first step in healing and gaining back your self esteem. Eventually you will forgive your husband for cheating on you.

Confide in your family and friends
It's always a good to have someone you trust share their thoughts and advice. Even just being with them and venting out your problems will help alot. Don't keep secrets, tell them your husband cheated. Having someone that will listen to your infidelity problem, comfort you, make you feel safe, this is what you need. Go watch a movie with friends, doesn't have to be a sad movie, a comedy or any other movie you want will do, as long as you are with friends or family. Have fun, laugh and smile. You don't need to throw away your life just because your husband cheated on you. He's not worth it, go and enjoy yourself. If you decided to leave your husband, then it will be good to go out on dates. Find someone that deserves you. The sooner that happens, the faster you'll forget about your ex cheating husband.

Be honest with your children
If you have kids be sure not to lie. Tell them the truth, just don't blame their father. If you have to split up, tell them. Don't blame the your cheating husband, that will just cause more problems. Openly tell them that their father has to move on with his own life, but they will still see him in the future. Don't promise them anything unrealistic, just be honest, your kids can help you feel better and support you more than anyone else. This happened to me, when my own father cheated on my mother. My mother wasn't honest though, even if I was old enough to know what was happening. She lived in denial, and included us. It worked for my younger sister, but not with me. I had to pretend I had no father because she didn't even give me a valid reason. All I remember is "He's gone now". I wish she was open with it, I would have been there to talk to her.

Baby steps, take it a day at a time
When you've decided to work on your relationship, don't rush it. Time will ease you back to where you left off. Also, it would be wise to ask your husband to go to a doctor to have him tested for any STDs he may have caught from having cheated on you. Again, don't resort to blaming him, even the skank who he cheated on you with. This is a waste of your breath. Not worth your time. Won't accomplish anything. Will remind you of things that has passed. Tell your husband this if he has the nerve to blame you. This will be the hardest part, slowly building your relationship back. Hopefully this time it will be stronger, and your husband would have learned his lesson and never cheat on you again.

Think of yourself, and your kids
If you decide to leave your husband, after you have enough proof that he has cheated on you, make sure you have it all planned out. Some questions to help you on planning are :

Where will you live?
Will you have enough money to support yourself and your kids?
Will you be able to put them through school?
Will all of you have the necessities in order to live comfortable?
Do you have any family or friends that can stay with your kids while you're at work?

Be sure to answer these important questions first before doing anything drastic.

Stay healthy
Do not let this ruin your life completely. Maintain a proper daily routine. Eat proper healthy meals, exercise regularly, get enough sleep and remember to have fun with your family and friends. Exercise is a natural way to relieve stress and anxiety, it won't just keep you looking good. If you leave your husband, staying healthy also involves dating. Making some new friends is easy now with the internet, you don't have to physically meet someone or anything. Just make new friends, chat online, have fun, flirt, anything you can do to help destress you, do it! Just stay away from vices such as drugs, and alcohol. Those will just make your life worse, and your children unhappy.

If you have been through all of this and would like to share your experiences or cheating stories, you can email catchacheateradmin@gmail dot com. You may also post anonymously, see my contact page for more info.

I hope this has helped you in dealing with a husband that cheated and gave you new insight on how to deal with infidelity.

You might also want to read my article on emotional affairs

Related articles on other sites worth reading, all of which are about mending relationships and discusses them more in depth.

Getting back with an ex
Can i save my marriage
How to get your ex back

Cheating husband caught Video 1

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Sun, 28 Dec 2008 01:55:00 +0000

This is video 1 on cheating husbands caught.

Another way on how to catch a cheating husband is hiring a private investigator. Probably the most famous private investigators on TV, when it comes to infidelity, is those private investigators from the show "Cheaters".

Here's a video where a cheating husband who cheats with the NEIGHBOR (who is ALSO MARRIED) gets caught by his wife with the Cheaters TV crew. Notice how even when there are several VIDEO evidence, they both still deny adultery and lie their way through this confrontation. Especially the cheating husband who keeps repeating "I'm just being a good friend" "I'm just being a good neighbor". The cheating husband also slept in the same house, just a few houses away from his own. These sort of cheating husbands caught who still keep lying are disgusting and should be sued and divorced!

She was right to divorce her cheating husband. To catch a cheating husband is difficult, but it will put your mind to rest and give you back your dignity. Don't accept all the lies your cheating husband gives you, take action and find out the truth.

If you suspect that you have a cheating husband, and you've thoroughly researched how to catch a cheating husband, I recommend NOT taking any legal action until you have decided on what to do, whether you leave him or work things out so you can get on with your relationship. Some choose to work things out, not for themselves, but for the kids that they may already have. If you choose to leave your cheating husband, make sure you get as much evidence as you can by spying on his instant messenger, cellphone, and if you have money to spare, hire a private investigator to take videos and pictures of your cheating husband.

If you haven't already read the signs of a cheating husband, I recommend you do. You may find that you notice some of the things listed as signs of a cheating husband with your own husband. A cheating husband caught will try to worm his way out of the situation by any means necessary. It's up to you what to do, not him. A cheating husband caught, especially those that are good liars, will try to make it look as if they are the ones who have been wronged. They may even blame you for their cheating, which is totally untrue.

Good luck with whatever decision you make, I hope this website has helped you catch a cheating husband, or find out the best ways to spy on your husband. Leave a comment or email, I love getting feedback, and would like to help. I know how it feels to have a cheating husband caught and still lie to your face.

-Kris

Cheating Stories - Cheating Husband Caught 1

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Sat, 27 Dec 2008 23:54:00 +0000

This is where the emails that I have received from people that have visited and would like to share their experience on cheating husbands will be posted. There is no cheating wife section yet well, because there aren't any emails about that yet. I only post emails of people that WANT me to post it, either anonymously or with a name you chose.

I would like to thank Hanna I. for allowing me to share her story about her cheating husband and how she caught her cheating husband.

from Hanna I M**** <********@ymail.com>
reply-to *********@ymail.com
to catch a cheater admin at g mail dot com
date Sun, Dec 26, 2008 at 7:24 PM
subject Story of how I found out my husband cheated.
signed-by ymail.com

Hi Kris? (I was wondering what your name was)

This is how it started.

I noticed that my husband who is..or WAS always sweet and caring slowly changed into a cold, silent person over the years. We have been married for 5 years, and just last year (2007) he was starting to give me the impression that something was going wrong. An affair maybe? I thought it was stupid of me to think that because he's my HUSBAND, he would never do that to me.

We rarely had sex. It was not my fault, he just wasn't interested in sex anymore.

I thought he was having a midlife crisis because he kept buying expensive clothes, watches, even a new car on his birthday.

He stayed out more hours than he should after work (he is an IT consultant). Often came home late. I used to wait for him and not eat dinner until I got used to him not eating at home, and whenever he came home he headed straight to bed, or the shower.

I always asked him at night when we were in bed together if something was wrong. All I get is the cold shoulder and sometimes he would even get irritated that I keep asking "stupid" questions.

I was suspicious of him cheating before, but this is just getting worse. I could not sleep or even eat anymore when he wasn't home. And when he was home, sundays, he was either too tired or too busy with work to do anything with me.

I decided to purchase a keylogger and put it on our home computer. I didn't even know what a keylogger was, but after doing thorough research, I purchased and installed it with not much problem. I have attached the following IM conversation in this email

Maybe this was all "fantasy" since it's just online chat, so I decided to spy on his cellphone too. I tracked where he was, and his stories did not match what I found. I kept at it for a month until I decided to confront him about his lies.

He admitted that he saw some "friends" after work and it was nothing. The online chat transcripts proved different, so did the cellphone tracker that I bought. And this very much explains his secrecy and phone calls to unknown numbers.

We are now in the process of divorce and I am glad to not waste any more time with him. Wish me luck, and thank you for your kind emails and support.

Hanna I** *****

Please send us an update when you have finished dealing with your cheating husband. This is all I will share for now, as the IM conversations are too long, and very inappropriate language is used. If you would like to censor some details, then feel free to resend it, or maybe a shorter transcript. Thank you again, Hana, and feel free to keep emailing or PMing me in the forum we met each other from.

By the way, that reason I don't post names is that both me(Kris, the one you met at the forum) and my husband post here.(mike, the one who writes about the men's side, cause he thinks I'm being unfair, and he also gives his input before posting. lol)

I'm working on more how to catch a cheating husband articles, and I'm going to gather more information now about evidence, legal action, and divorce. Would help me greatly if you shared what keylogger you used.

Signs of a cheating husband

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 10:30:00 +0000

Signs that may indicate you have a cheating husband

Why do men cheat? First you'll have to understand that men cheat on women because men are built or programed like that, don't immediately think that it is your fault that they cheat on you, or you have become an unattractive or undesirable wife or girlfriend (or even boyfriend, if you're in a gay relationship). A cheating husband, I think it's safe to say almost all men, would willingly have sexual intercourse with another woman just because the woman wants to have sex with them, or because they find that woman sexually attractive.

Men were like this since the stone age, and next to nothing has changed (at least they don't drag women by the hair anymore). Men just want to spread their seed. Take a male spider for example, they will risk everything just to spread their seed and ensure their genes continue, no matter what the cost to them is. Most cheating husbands are like that, they forget about their families, their wives, their girlfriends, and cheat with someone they find attractive, or maybe not even attractive... just another person willing to have intercourse with them!

Here are some of the signs you should watch out for when you start learning and researching on how to catch a cheating husband. Be suspicious if you find any of these key signs.

The first thing that you will probably notice is, and this applies to both sexes, is that your husband starts caring more about his physical appearance. Examples of this are he suddenly joins a gym, buys new clothes, improvement in personal hygiene, loses a lot of weight, changes hair style, etc. Be worried that you might have a cheating husband if you notice any of these signs come out of nowhere.
Lack of quality time. You don't cuddle anymore. You stop talking about random things that used to make you laugh and smile. No more pillow talk. He shows no interest in you when at home. He spends his free time elsewhere with friends you don't know. Definitely one of the worst signs that you have a cheating husband
Change of work schedule. If your husband suddenly has a change in schedule and uses it as a reason to stay away from home, or go out of town he maybe cheating on you.
Phone calls. If you suspect your husband is cheating, you may notice he puts down the phone whenever you are near or just arrived home. He doesn't tell you who he is talking to and may even get irritated if you continue to prod.
Vague answers. This is mostly how he answers to everything related to where he is going, what he is going to do, who he is going to be with. Another dead giveaway of a cheating husband, secrecy.
He asks your schedule or whether or not you're going to be busy at a certain time. This may mean he is trying to plan a meeting with the woman he is having an affair with. Be suspicious that you have a cheating husband if he tries to know when or where you're going to be, but doesn't particularly care about anything else. Just what time you're going to be away, and what time you're coming back.
He stops bothering you for sex. No man can live without sex for long. If it has been months and months without the slightest hint of sex, and he for some reason isn't asking for it, you HAVE to be suspicious and start researching more on how to catch a cheating husband. Where else will he get sex if he doesn't get it from you?
Tired every time he gets home. Unless your husband is a construction worker, or anything that involves being physically active, he should not be coming home drained. Not a definite sign that you have a cheating husband, but if he usually doesn't come home tired, why the sudden change?
Over dressed. When was the last time you saw your husband dress out of his shorts and tee to go "hang out with the guys"? He maybe lying right to your face, and is heading straight to the woman he is cheating on you with. This is common for those cheating husbands that want to experience more thrill.
Gets defensive, sarcastic, and irritable when you try to uncover what they have been doing all day. This is usually a way for them to justify what they are doing "working hard" or "spending my free time with the guys" aka cheating on you with another woman (or man).
If they do ask you for sex, it feels different. Like he's testing out something new on you. You may or may not enjoy it, but if he has never done anything like that in bed with you before, it could be because of the new experiences he has been having. Again another no definite sign, but worth watching out for.
Reluctant to go near you, hug you, or give you a kiss when he gets home from work. If your husband heads straight for the bathroom for a shower, then you might have a cheating husband.
When YOU want to make love, he usually gives excuses to avoid it, and when you do make love, he's not very active, or seems like he's not even enjoying your company.
You being on this website researching on how to catch a cheating husband is one of the signs that you may have a cheating husband. If you have a hunch that your husband is cheating on you even before researching, then you maybe right. It's the wife or girlfriend that can tell right away if something is wrong.

Here are some possible reasons why you have a cheating husband. These aren't written in stone, some of it may or may not apply to you and your husband. Some of these reasons you may notice, but it won't necessarily mean that is the cause, as some men just can't help it. Remember nothing is absolute, you are still the best judge on whether or not he is up to something.

Lack of sex. If your spouse isn't being sexually satisfied, then he will most likely become a cheating husband in time. You may be having sex once a month or every week, but this would probably not be enough for most husbands that choose to cheat. They may have some sexual fantasies that they don't want to share with you, and by cheating they get to live their fantasies and satisfy their sexual urges. Some fantasies may actually be to CHEAT on you. Physical attraction to another woman while being unsatisfied with his current sexual activities with you is one of the main causes of infidelity. Sometimes cheating husbands, even when they have sex on a regular basis, need to fulfill their fantasies. When the wife ignores, puts down, or even laugh at those fantasies, this is where the thought of another woman fulfilling his urges start.
Tired of current lifestyle. Sex becomes routine, zero anticipation from both parties, boring, and feels like something you need to do,a chore, not something you look forward to doing. This causes husbands to cheat and find something more exciting, especially if the wife refuses to do anything out of the ordinary. Most husbands will get turned on by the thrill of cheating and doing things behind your back.
Loss of attraction. One of the most common reasons, your husband may not find you attractive and sexually arousing anymore. He may even hint that you should go to the gym or try a new diet he heard about from his friend. Loss of attraction can lead to lack of sex, and not alot of men can live without that.
Nagging wife. When a wife keeps nagging her husband, this usually leads to him ignoring her, not taking her seriously, and eventually wanting to find someone else to please him sexually. Since he ignores his wife, he won't care that he is cheating on her. He may even do this just to spite you.
Falling out of love. This usually happens after a couple has been together for so long, they start caring less and less on how to please each other, find more interest in friends, sex no longer brings excitement, etc. If this is mutual, then you have no problems. But since you're here reading about how to catch a cheating husband, then maybe you still want to fix your relationship...or sue his ass off.

These are just some reasons and signs he is cheating which will help you in catching a cheating husband. Again, just because some of the signs are present, or some of the reasons why your husband would cheat on you is there, it does not necessarily mean that you have a cheating husband. All relationships have their good times and bad times, whether your relationship holds together depends on you and your husband.

No matter what you do or how hard you try to prevent your husband from cheating, it won't be your fault when he does cheat on you if you have done everything you can to prevent it from happening.

If you are in a situation like this, I know it's hard to think about how to catch a cheating husband, but to get your peace of mind back, to be able to go on with your life and start a new relationship, you'll eventually have to confront your husband, or wait for him to confess or maybe even leave you if things get really really worse. It is not uncommon to find out you have a cheating husband leading a secret life. This situation will change your life, and will eventually make you stronger emotionally.

Good luck, and feel free to send me an email with any questions you may have that are unanswered.

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10 Signs of a cheating wife

noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Fri, 26 Dec 2008 00:22:00 +0000

Helpful article on how to catch a cheating wife

The first things you will notice when you suspect that your wife is cheating on you is that her behavior is slowly changing. Here are some some of the signs of a cheating wife :

Your wife is being vague or secretive
Your wife no longer shares what happens to her on a daily basis. When you do pry out an answer from her, she gives you vague answers, no names, times, places. Answers like "Oh nothing, we just went to lunch" "Just with a friend" "I'm too tired to remember, sorry" will cause anyone to doubt whether or not they have a cheating wife.

Your wife changes the topic to something about you
After giving you vague answers, she suddenly starts to ask YOU what you have been doing. If this starts to become common and she keeps answering your questions with vague answers or her own questions, you are right to be suspicious that you might have a cheating wife.

Your wife no longer drags you to places or events
Sounds good, right? Think again. You wife used to drag you shopping, wanting your opinion about every little thing she buys. Takes you out to see this new shop / show etc. It stopped happening? Then you may have a cheating wife. It's your call whether this is a post fight "I need some time alone" thing or she just suddenly becomes independent of you and this has never happened before. You are right to worry because this is how to catch a cheating wife.

Your wife stopped nagging and yelling at you
Woo, another good thing? Not really.. If she used to get mad and nag you about every little thing, and suddenly stop, especially coupled with the vague answers and trips "alone" to the mall etc, you may have a cheating wife. If you think this is a blessing and not a curse, you should wonder WHY your wife stopped caring.

Your wife starts being overly nice
Suddenly, you can watch all the games you want, stay out late, do whatever you want and you get no yell or sermon. She even cooks your favorite meal! This could be because she's distracting you from what is really going on. You might have a cheating wife if this happens out of the blue and seems like there is no reason for her to be doing this. If she has never done this before and you have been with her for a long time, this should cause you to worry even more. Yes women think men are THAT dumb.

Your wife starts caring more about her physical appearance
A sure sign that you have a cheating wife is when she out of nowhere starts caring more and more about her looks. She may get on a new diet, start doing cardio, might purchase weight loss pills, etc. You might notice when you have sex (if you do still have sex often) that she started trimming or shaving down there. If she never did that before, and all of a sudden does, you should research as much as possible on how to catch a cheating wife, because that is one of the most GUARANTEED signs that you can ever expect to find. I asked my wife if she would shave herself if I didn't ask her to, she said "No, unless I was single and dating. Other than that, I hate when the hair starts to grow back".

Sex
A normal thing with cheating wives, when you have sex with them (if they still have sex with you that is) they will no longer be excited, active, or enjoy it. All forms of intimacy will be missed. When you ask her what's wrong, she always says "I'm not in the mood" or "I'm tired". Meaning, she's getting it elsewhere. Learn how to catch a cheating wife and find out who that bastard who is stealing your wife is. Then sue their asses. (sorry got carried away, I hate liars and cheaters)

Your wife starts spending more money on things you don't even see
It maybe new clothes, sexy lingerie, dinner with her "girl" friends, etc. If you do not see where the money goes, or what the money brings home, you should be worried. Secrecy always means there is something bad going on behind your back, it could be another man, or maybe even a woman, point is, you may have a cheating wife.

Secret phone calls and text messages
A cheating wife usually puts down the phone whenever you get home, or near her. Phone calls don't just happen when you are at work, if your wife is cheating and you are at home, they may even have phone sex to add to the thrill of the affair. Does your wife send text messages a lot more than she used to? This is an easy way of knowing whether or not she is cheating on you as there are tons of way to spy on your spouse when she is using an instant messenger, or cellphone.

Keeping an eye out for your car
If you notice that your wife keeps the car clean, when she'd normally hate to clean the car, you may have a cheating wife. An easy way for you to know whether or no she is lying to you is by checking on the miles of the car, and ask her everyday where she went. You'll immediately know when she is lying if the numbers don't match with her story.

Monitor your computer
Another good way on how to catch a cheating wife is to keep your computer monitored all the time. I will show you what I used to spy on my computer, read all the instant messenger logs, and know who she talked to. This is a difficult process, as the results may cause you a lot of pain and anxiety. Before putting in any programs to spy on your suspected cheating wife, first check on how long she normally stays on the computer, try asking her what she's doing, and notice if whenever you walk nearby she minimizes her conversations and opens up a website to hide them.

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noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 10:01:00 +0000

How to catch a cheating husband has lots of articles for you to read, I offer this free and based from my own personal experience coupled with some books I have read that helped me.

This Contact page is for you to use if you ever have a question that is too personal to ask here at "How to catch a cheating husband". You may comment anonymously but if that is not enough privacy for you, you can ask your personal questions by email.

I will also add a personal experiences section for those of you that would like to share your own personal experience with a cheating husband or cheating wife and what you did to cope with infidelity. I will not spam, or post anything you do not want me to post. If you want to post a picture or a few words about your cheating spouses, that is alright with me too. I hate cheating bastards as much as you, believe me, as I was cheated on by my first husband a few years after we got married.

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Hopefully, you will learn how to catch a cheating husband or wife with all the articles and info you find in this site.

Good luck, and always hope for the best.

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noreply@blogger.com (Blogger) — Wed, 24 Dec 2008 06:34:00 +0000

Do you have a cheating husband or a cheating wife?

Many of us have been there before. It usually starts with a gut feeling that something is wrong, perhaps they're staying out more often, or they seem to work overtime longer. You catch them talking or sending sweet SMS messages to an unknown number. Whenever your loved one isn't home, you spend hours wondering where they are and who they're with. Your life becomes full of questions with no definite answers, wondering about ifs, hows, whos, whys, or whens. And before you know it, your life becomes a living hell.

You will know you are in something serious when you start asking yourself "How do I catch my husband cheating on me?" or "Do I have a cheating wife?". If this is something NEW you have experienced and observed it happening more and more so, you may have a cheating spouse:

Your husband or wife refuses to tell you where they are going
Your husband or wife refuses to tell you what they are going to do
Your husband or wife refuses to tell youwho they will be with
You get vague answers, or they always turn off their cellphones the second they leave your home
When they get home, you're either asleep, or they head straight to the bathroom.

Read more signs here :
How to catch a cheating husband : Signs
How to catch a cheatin g wife : Signs

This website aims to help you get your life back on track and teach you how to catch a cheating husband or wife. It will contain articles on how to know if you have a cheating spouse, how to catch a cheating husband or a cheating wife, ways for you to cope from any anxiety or stress this has caused you, and how to deal with them when you do catch them.